Re: My husband's lack of a job
Turning Points - I am in about the same situation, but I can't say that it's as severe as yours right now. We have been married for about 9 months now. My husband has a job currently, but he's miserable. He is verbally abused every day and made to give hourly reports to his supervisor on what he is doing. Like you, we can get by on just my income, but if something terrible were to happen (say to the house - really not much danger in losing my job or getting a pay cut), we won't have any savings to cover it...well, very little anyway as we just spent most of it on a much needed house project before his revalation of wanting to quit. We had discussed his staying in his position until he gets fired, so that for awhile he might be eligible for unemployment. And, I don't have a problem with him quitting his job for metal health reasons as long as he has a plan IN PLACE. He is currently working on becoming a volunteer fireman so for the next couple of months, he is at class 3 evenings a week. And, he has discussed going to the community college and getting a associate's degree in fire sciences or something similar. But, he has no plans in place to accomplish this. He hasn't talked to a counselor at the school or anything. Every once in awhile, he'll put in an application for a job somewhere, but never follows up or hears back. Understand the frustration. I was there at one point.
Here's the facet of the problem that is similar to your case. My husband can also spend hours upon hours a day playing video games. And, when he has a day off that is all he wants to do. Any time something needs to get done around the house, I have to ask him to do it, and then he complains because he never gets any time to himself. But, at the same time, I think where is my time to myself? Then he makes comments like, "I wasn't helping to clean because you were just making lunch." Not like I was making it just for myself!! So, where I am nervous is that if he does quit his job, is he just going to sit around the house all day and do nothing? In the past, he has done nothing to prove to me that when I am away at work he will pick up the slack around the house so why would he change now? And, I don't want to have to be the wife that has to tell him every little thing to do for the day. Why can't he think for himself and do it? I am his WIFE, not his MOTHER. And, as an adult, responsiblity should come first before fun.
At this point, it is just a fear of mine. I am going to have the conversation with him tonight, but I'm sure he'll get annoyed because he has to come home from class and hear me ***** about the situation again.