10-05-2009, 06:45 PM
Join Date: Mar 2009
| | How do I confront ex-wife?
At today's counseling session, we were given 3 homework assignments to help save our marriage:
1) refinance the house (earn maybe $300 per month)
2) recalculate the bills, and double check that we are paying adequate share of mortgage and utilities (saves nothing, but starts more arguments)
3) ask his ex-wife to pay at least $500 toward her daughter's $2000 college fees/month
#2 We did with Hubby refusing to pay any overage if a utility is slightly more. He refused to pay the car insurance, and our son's preschool costs ($100/month), or doctor bills for our kids.
I don't think those are expensess I need to pay alone, as I make about 1/3 his income.
#1 I will check mortgage banks tomorrow
#3 Hubby backed out already, in less then 6 hours, he already broke his promise to follow the advice of our counselor. He said I can ask her myself, which I will, but I need a strategy. She is already thousands in debt due to her reckless spending, so I need an approach that will motivate her to want to help us. Helping her daughter wasn't enough motivation.
Should I tell her about the pending divorce?
Should I play up her sympathy, and explain the abusive behavior he has exhibited to me and our two sons?
Should I just plead my case to my stepdaughter directly?
She is a great manipulator so I need to outsmart her without her realizing it. I am normally honest and direct, so I need help pulling this off.