The question is:
Should I pay Dan for part of the utilities, taxes and/or insurance costs on his house while I am living there?
If so, how much is a fair amount?
AND, if so, should I also be required to pay rent to Dan in addition to paying part of the utilities, taxes and/or insurance? If so, how much?
As I said, this is causing a problem as I am not in agreement with what Dan thinks is fair.
Please respond with your advice. Thanks!
In a word, NO.. you should not pay any utilities or bills, taxes on dans house as you are his WIFE, not his room mate....
( being if your actually legally married)
but on the other hand, with your now rental, he should not have to pay any expenses on that or be asked to provide any labor in or on it.
They are seperate property. Any reapirs, upgrades on the rental, should come from the rent of the property and expenses used on your income taxes, as any rental property would.
If you are unable to rent it, talk to your CPA or tax person to see how you can deal with no rental occupants 50% of the time on your taxes, as there are ways to deal with that on your taxes.
You should be doing seperate IRS taxes and filing seperate since you have rental property anyway.
If you are asked to pay a cut of such a low amount on Dans House ( since its paid for)... you are being treated like a room mate and not a wife. How petty for him to ask you pay anything of those bills.
On the other hand, any repairs, rental fees, etc on your rent house should not involve him since that was yours before you met him.
That is how I see it.
I'm in much of the same situation as you although younger in age. My husband moved in with me and my home is paid for ( has been a decade or more) and he pays all the bills, food as well as gives me extra money. My husband treats me like a wife, not a room mate and does what he can to make my life better and easier, not harder, as any loving husband would do... more so since bills are not that high and our monthly expenses are not much.
For him to ask you to pay rent is an insult to you !!! Why did he marry you ? to help him pay bills? ugh !!!!
If your going to pay for bills in second housing, you should sell both properties and buy one together with both your names on it.
At least that way... your name is on it.
That is my opinion on the matter.