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post #46 of 128 (permalink) Old 02-09-2014, 03:14 PM
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Interesting thread. It's nice that TAM is lively. Sometimes people I like bait others. It is partly style, partly aggression. Not everybody hanging out here is 100%... bring Shaggy back.
I thought Shaggy wanted to be banned. Maybe I'm mistaken but I thought he wanted to leave TAM, so he asked to be banned.

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Interesting thread. It's nice that TAM is lively. Sometimes people I like bait others. It is partly style, partly aggression. Not everybody hanging out here is 100%... bring Shaggy back.
I really liked many of his posts. I do miss him. I think CA is correct. I think he got sucked into too many of those just like I did this time. It's a learning experience. Sometimes, I have to step away from the podium. I don't have to give my point of view.

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I do think that much of this was taken out of context, but that was the point of the thread, I think. It was basically to embarrass or my apology to Novella in another thread might have been accepted. It came shortly before this, when I realised she was hurt by my comment.
Anon, I just came back and read what I posted. I apologize for writing, "that was the point of the thread". That was incorrect. I know you didn't start that thread to start any trouble. I actually meant that was the point of that portion of the thread. I don't know how I messed that up, but somehow, I did.

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I thought Shaggy wanted to be banned. Maybe I'm mistaken but I thought he wanted to leave TAM, so he asked to be banned.
but it could have been stated "under duress"

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Perhaps you outta take a look at some of your own posts:

When it comes to following guidelines, you seem to fall a bit short
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You got her GOOOOODDDD... did your homework Lenzi... Love it... ya know...you throw attitude & insults in one's forum face....you are asking for a Reaction...

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She had a go at Simply Amorous, which is like putting kittens in a bag and driving down to the river bank IMO.
I had to laugh reading this comment... Yeah, this person was a bit rude.... an deliberately stirring the thread on some delicate issues .....but really....taking pop shots at me is not a big deal...go for it!... really there is a Lion underneath my demeanor...

I just calm my responses (or roar) here.....Oh I am true to them....even if I am foolish enough to waste my time with some....After all.... do I want banned.... let them roar...I'll defend what needs defending... then let it lie.

Harsh disrespectful sh** stirrers lurk on every corner of the globe looking for kicks......thankfully the majority are on to them...such people inevitably bring themselves to ruin.
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I've followed this thread ever since the OP started it and laughed to myself . I knew what would have been the outcome, because that person has three of four different screen names / identities here on TAM.They just keep reincarnating or switching usernames whenever they get banned.
I know this for sure because the syntax remains the same and the modus operandi is always the same .

They always start off posting in the ladies lounge and then progress very quickly into the Politics section.
Their first post in the politics section is usually about gay rights legislation .

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You've really got to grow a thicker skin. There are some real a$$holes here, and there are otherwise decent people that just get po'd and lose it temporarily. Heck, someone recently compared me to a crack ho for being clear with my now hb that I wanted marriage....oh well. Just speaks poorly of that poster. Let these things go.
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I lost my thick skin when I broke down and spent a few days in the hospital. I've got to grow it back. Basically, I have got to learn not to give a crap about anything or anyone. Not even what you just posted. So, even this post is too much. Isn't it? Think about it.

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I lost my thick skin when I broke down and spent a few days in the hospital. I've got to grow it back. Basically, I have got to learn not to give a crap about anything or anyone. Not even what you just posted. So, even this post is too much. Isn't it? Think about it.

But it's not about not giving a crap; that's a terrible place to be. It's about realizing that it's not personal; it can't be because nobody knows you or your life. I do wish that more people here were capable of discussing, as opposed to insulting and name calling, but I guess many here just aren't in a good place for that.
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What an adorable troll!

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You got her GOOOOODDDD... did your homework Lenzi... Love it... ya know...you throw attitude & insults in one's forum face....you are asking for a Reaction...
Frankly, I find this attitude, and in fact this entire thread disgusting.

So one person makes sexual jokes at a poster, and in response he/she calls him a "fool" and that's supposed to be the pot calling the kettle black? These things are equivalent?

Here's what I see. I see a cabal of regulars here ganging up on a newer member that has the gall to disagree with them. Of course this new member will not last long when everyone else is against them. It doesn't take a genius to predict that.

I saw the exact same thing happen in the thread "my husband gets mad that I go to work functions after work hours" in general relationships forum. And that thread was deleted by a mod yesterday.

This person (Mapper) came asking for help, a few people, who probably just glanced at her posts and didn't carefully read them, insinuated she was meeting men and trying to cheat on her husband, she (naturally) got angry at that and told them off (not with insults), and in response several regulars swarmed on her like buzzards on a dead corpse.

I don't like it when that happens, but I'm just wired to always defend the underdog. And I like new members to stick around, even if they don't always agree with me. Crazy me.

Of course, now I run the risk of the same thing happening to me, but I have been on this and similar forums many times before, and know how to handle myself a little better. Many of the new people don't know all the "tricks" and don't know the best ways to defend themselves when attacked.

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I've followed this thread ever since the OP started it and laughed to myself . I knew what would have been the outcome, because that person has three of four different screen names / identities here on TAM.They just keep reincarnating or switching usernames whenever they get banned.
I'm glad you are so sure about that, but I certainly am not.

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Frankly, I find this attitude, and in fact this entire thread disgusting.

So one person makes sexual jokes at a poster, and in response he/she calls him a "fool" and that's supposed to be the pot calling the kettle black? These things are equivalent?

Here's what I see. I see a cabal of regulars here ganging up on a newer member that has the gall to disagree with them. Of course this new member will not last long when everyone else is against them. It doesn't take a genius to predict that.

I saw the exact same thing happen in the thread "my husband gets mad that I go to work functions after work hours" in general relationships forum. And that thread was deleted by a mod yesterday.

This person (Mapper) came asking for help, a few people, who probably just glanced at her posts and didn't carefully read them, insinuated she was meeting men and trying to cheat on her husband, she (naturally) got angry at that and told them off (not with insults), and in response several regulars swarmed on her like buzzards on a dead corpse.

I don't like it when that happens, but I'm just wired to always defend the underdog. And I like new members to stick around, even if they don't always agree with me. Crazy me.

Of course, now I run the risk of the same thing happening to me, but I have been on this and similar forums many times before, and know how to handle myself a little better. Many of the new people don't know all the "tricks" and don't know the best ways to defend themselves when attacked.



I'm glad you are so sure about that, but I certainly am not.

I never saw the other thread you mentioned but this thread isn't about new members being ganged up on. It was started by novella who brought new meaning to being obtuse. Deliberately dense.

I respect how you stick up for civility and you have called me out on not being civil and I respect that. Some people just rub you the wrong way.

But when a member is beating the dead horse of an oft used theme blindly, seeing only a work or phrase and reacting to how that triggers their own issues, THEY also need to be called out for that.

I found novella to be offensive and deliberately dense in her effort to stir the pot, not in an effort to seek understanding or even share a different POV. That other member, with whom I became uncivil, is the same. Not attempting to understand or even seek understanding but simply beating his drum and same old tired tune that is misinformed by his lack of self insight.

So, by all means, continue to insist upon civility but understand that some of us become uncivil not as a means to scare away new member with differing opinions, but due to the pot being stirred by those with an axe to grind.
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I found novella to be offensive and deliberately dense in her effort to stir the pot, not in an effort to seek understanding or even share a different POV.
I am only referring to what I see in this thread. And given 2ntnuf's admitted deliberate prodding, I can't blame Novella for calling him a "fool". That's pretty mild response actually.

The only time I have ever been banned from any website is here on TAM, when I was banned once for 2 weeks for making a joke that was pretty mild compared to what I see in this thread.

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So, by all means, continue to insist upon civility but understand that some of us become uncivil not as a means to scare away new member with differing opinions, but due to the pot being stirred by those with an axe to grind.
Anyway, what I really objected to here was the mocking, troll cartoons, and several members (including a moderator) practically giving each other high-fives over driving a member away. What's next? Handing out medals?

It leaves a bad taste in my mouth because several times I have seen veterans here gang up, slyly insult an OP without openly using insults, then when that OP has enough and fires back they all say "see! I knew you were unstable". Ironically, you see this happen in marriages too, where one partner provokes another until they explode, and then that first partner can say to the world: "look I was right, I'm married to an angry person".
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I'm a regular,never been banned and I'm wondering if you have some examples of where this is happening (regulars ganging up on a new poster) Do you flag the posts as baiting or harassment? From what I've seen,the regulars typically gang up on each other in the long drawn out threads bc they rarely agree on much. Maybe things are different in CWI though...I don't often go there.
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I am only referring to what I see in this thread. And given 2ntnuf's admitted deliberate prodding, I can't blame Novella for calling him a "fool". That's pretty mild response actually.
that's like saying you know someone very well because you listened to them talk for 5 minutes.

I came across this thread, and then I went and searched through the Ops back posts before reaching the conclusion that they were far from an "innocent victim that only retaliated when ganged up on". They were a trouble maker from the start. The mods knew it, most of the seasoned posters on this thread know it, and you don't know it because, as you said you only looked at this one thread. Why not take a gander at the Ops back posts and come back with your opinion rather than take a stand of defense against a person you only know from this one thread?
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