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post #91 of 128 (permalink) Old 03-19-2014, 04:42 PM
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Post 'em up here, Charlotte. That's what this thread is for. We all get harsh treatment from time to time. This is a good vent thread and a good place for mods to come and check things out.


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I apologize in advance for all posts to be made this month.

Not really...... Don't you people know I am always right? Lol

Hook me up a new revolution, cause this one is a lie. Sat around laughing and watched the last one die.
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Post 'em up here, Charlotte. That's what this thread is for. We all get harsh treatment from time to time. This is a good vent thread and a good place for mods to come and check things out.
Thanks! I won't put the offending posts up here so that I don't seem vindictive or inciting.

The people who were unnecessarily nasty know who they are. I feel especially sorry for one of them in particular. Holy projection Batman!

Like I said, those people clearly have issues that cannot be solved by TAM.
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For the most part...everyone is pretty respectful everywhere except CWI....and it seems to be full of mostly men who hate women...especially WW.

So if you have something you need too discuss and you can put it in a forum besides CWI you should not have a problem.
I have seen that ire directed at you and EI and don't think it's right at all. I think you, EI and other wayward regulars have handled those posters with nothing but class.

I wish that they would also read other's back stories and other posts instead of jacking the original threads and asking personal questions that don't necessarily pertain to the topic. It seems to me like you, EI and others get interrogated a lot and have to "prove your remorse" or prove yourselves worthy by different BS's on this site that don't know you. Maybe it's just me but it comes off as invasive.

As someone that frequents CWI, I wish that more WS's would post there but I can fully understand why they don't. Too often people posts threads, specifically asking WS's to respond and then it becomes a witch-hunt. Instead of listening even if one disagrees, a lot of projected hurt gets flung around at WS's instead of directed at one's spouse where it usually belongs.

Being a BS doesn't make anyone a saint.

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I have seen that ire directed at you and EI and don't think it's right at all. I think you, EI and other wayward regulars have handled those posters with nothing but class.

I wish that they would also read other's back stories and other posts instead of jacking the original threads and asking personal questions that don't necessarily pertain to the topic. It seems to me like you, EI and others get interrogated a lot and have to "prove your remorse" or prove yourselves worthy by different BS's on this site that don't know you. Maybe it's just me but it comes off as invasive.

As someone that frequents CWI, I wish that more WS's would post there but I can fully understand why they don't. Too often people posts threads, specifically asking WS's to respond and then it becomes a witch-hunt. Instead of listening even if one disagrees, a lot of projected hurt gets flung around at WS's instead of directed at one's spouse where it usually belongs.

Being a BS doesn't make anyone a saint.
QFT!!!

I think any poster who gets mean or harsh with Mrs JA or EI should be reported, the post removed, and banned upon subsequent infractions!

I don't frequent CWI because I can't tolerate the level of bitterness that is accepted as normal, even encouraged! CWI should be a place of healing and people should hold one another accountable to promote healing and discourage vengeful bitter thinking.

We have all had crappy sh!tty lousy and unfair things happen to us. We cannot rate the depth of one persons trauma over another. Healing is healing no matter what it is that caused the injury.

CWI is NOT a place of healing, it isn't even a place of cleansing. It is a pit of bitterness. I can't stand that section...can you tell?
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This thread is still happening? Novella was banned, right?

The irony here is that some who get upset they have been called names have been incredibly rude to posters and done some name-calling themselves.

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I apologize in advance for all posts to be made this month.

Not really...... Don't you people know I am always right? Lol
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No one is a saint...but no one deserves to be cheated on. It is the cruelest thing one person can do to another. It tears my heart out to think of the pain I have caused my dh. He above all others...did not deserve my selfishness.
I owe him more than I can ever repay...he gave me a second chance....and I will never make him regret that decision.
You know I adore you but I beg to differ on the underlined.

Thoughtless and selfish, yes.

But it is not something done specifically to bring pain to the other. That is how I define cruelty. I don't believe most people who have an affair do so specifically in order to inflict pain on their spouse.
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This thread is still happening? Novella was banned, right?

The irony here is that some who get upset they have been called names have been incredibly rude to posters and done some name-calling themselves.


Sometimes in football it is the person retaliating who gets penalized. Always best to maintain civility, regardless of the direction to spears are being thrown. I don't find this a weakness, if your argument is on solid footing.
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This thread is still happening? Novella was banned, right?

The irony here is that some who get upset they have been called names have been incredibly rude to posters and done some name-calling themselves.

That's not true you ^*~%#!

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Sometimes in football it is the person retaliating who gets penalized. Always best to maintain civility, regardless of the direction to spears are being thrown. I don't find this a weakness, if your argument is on solid footing.
This is absolutely true. For me, it's really hard to keep that not tempered Italian at bay. I can cuss in 5 languages!
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For the most part...everyone is pretty respectful everywhere except CWI....and it seems to be full of mostly men who hate women...especially WW.
Ok, MJA, you know I like ya

But come on now. You take a disrespectful ACT or behavior, but the focus is on those that call out that behavior as disrespectful?

I know some can go over the top. I'm sure some think I probably have. But there are some people who are disrespectful to their spouses in real life, and IMO, disrespectful to us in the forum to come in, blameshift and make excuses that are an insult to those of us that have been betrayed who are going to get the emotions going.

You are not one of them, however. You and those such as EI are the exception to the rule IMO. So don't think I hold such views as above to people like you.

And I do think most of the angry BS's are men. I think it just pisses us off more. Nothing wrong with that, again, IMO
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QFT!!!

I think any poster who gets mean or harsh with Mrs JA or EI should be reported, the post removed, and banned upon subsequent infractions!
I agree with regards to MJA and EI, and those like them(although few and far between)

But I think some slack should be given when calling out the blameshifters, gaslighters, and "Its my spouse's fault I cheated" crowd.
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Some people in CWI are downright abusive and vicious.They want the BS to do EXACTLY as they say and they want to beat the emotional snot out of the WS's who share their story.

It's rare to find people who actually just stick to giving advice and tips without getting emotionally involved and heated.
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Some people in CWI are downright abusive and vicious.They want the BS to do EXACTLY as they say and they want to beat the emotional snot out of the WS's who share their story.
CWI is a zoo.
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