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post #31 of 130 (permalink) Old 03-28-2014, 07:37 PM
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Re: Seriously... do people not appreciate emoticons, pictures and colors in a post?

She asked for honesty. She is a HUGE contributor. Her stye is well known and unique. I recall her participating in my threads and I appreciate that despite the annoying style. Just because I dislike an abundance of colors and artwork in posts and ad nauseum "Im so happy" claims which I believe are bogus doesn't mean she doesn't deserve a truthful response that she asked for. I don't doubt her sincere interest in the truth.

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I am going to take your advice here and tone the emoticons down.. Never use light colors (though I don't use those except maybe in between pictures)..... I have used red for numbering / defining an outline type thing...I'll try to cut this out..
I think it would be a mistake to change your style, I have read many times your posts and is easy to see that you put alot of effort on the advices and they are well thought and insightful, and also your style including colors and emoticons are part of that unity of the whole process of those posts, to change it will mean to force yourself to change the dynamic of you as poster and that can also affect how comfortable you feel in this site.

See for example the advice from "marriedmanhere" while honest from his perspective and well intended he also lets us know that he usually does not read your posts that much (as he had to go back and search for examples), so you could modifying your style for users that in the end don't hang out in the same sections as you, and those who appreciate your style may feel that now something is lacking.

I don't normally hang out in the same sections as you neither, but when I am tired of CWI I go to LTSM and read threads like yours or "threetimeslady" to change the air and to remind me that not all is infidelity and suffering in marriages.

diversity is what makes a community interesting, how boring the world would be if everybody would think the same, look the same and even write the same?, I agree with other users, you should not change your style.

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It seems a little sad you put so much time and effort into posting to fill up whatever hole is empty in your life despite what seems to be lots of claims of a blissful state of being.

When I am feeling lousy and come on here and see your cheerio posts I want to vomit.


This is mean.
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She asked for honesty, but I detect malice, IGT.

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It's happened twice to me in the past so many months.. people taking pop shots at my posts for being difficult to read, annoying.. Heck I aim to make my posts enjoyable to read !...

Now, given the 1st poster who did this.. he or she got banned and was rude to everyone, came out slashing on a thread... and he or she hated my views so I feel she was just aiming to Screw with me..

But what about cell phones & Ipods.... does using colors and emoticons mess with viewing posts and make it difficult??.... I have only used a LAPTOP to be on TAM , so I have no idea...

Be honest please.. but just in relation to the layout of a post...(not about my views, God Knows I can be out of the box there!)...

For instance...Larry Gray does not care for the colors as I seen his comment on this in another thread.... so others must think like him as well... if you are one of those posters... I will keep you in mind if you are on such a thread with me...or I post specifically to you.

Thank you..
I think it's cheap jealousy, plain and simple. Both for the fun posts and the grace you display in every post you share with us.
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Truthful opinions hurt. Offering them isn't mean when asked for. Bull****ting someone is mean when they want the truth. Blowing daisies up someones azz is mean when they want the truth. SA can handle the truth. She presses on despite the critics she mentions past and present.

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I don't think spending that much time (years, daily, countless hours every day) is healthy.

MY truthful O-P-I-N-I-O-N is …

If there was something fulfilling available including a blissful marriage, awesome family, passionate offline interests you wouldn't find endless hours of doo dads added and being searched for all over the web.

Anyone that writes THAT much again in my l O-P-I-N-I-O-N has a passion for writing and illustration and it is wasted searching and posting for electrons to a very limited audience.

Not my business and I didn't say it was. I was sharing what was asked of me. My opinion.

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Dude, come on. How hard is it to use emoticons and different colored fonts that you interpret this as being the main part of her day? I see a woman who manages her home life well enough to have time to visit with friends on the internet. Don't like it? WHY DID YOU WASTE YOUR TIME REPLYING THEN?????
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She asked for honesty. She is a HUGE contributor. Her stye is well known and unique. I recall her participating in my threads and I appreciate that despite the annoying style. Just because I dislike an abundance of colors and artwork in posts and ad nauseum "Im so happy" claims which I believe are bogus doesn't mean she doesn't deserve a truthful response that she asked for. I don't doubt her sincere interest in the truth.
You were needlessly rude in your response. She came on here asking how people felt about her posting style, out of consideration for the people who post on this forum, and you berated her for it. There was no constructive criticism in what you wrote, it was just a string of insults.

I'm sorry about whatever it is that is making you so angry.
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He said it himself- he hates cheery posts because he "would rather commiserate in a ***** fest at times for no understood reason calling all spouses scum and bums". I guess her PMA really sticks in his craw.
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Seriously... do people not appreciate emoticons, pictures and colors in a post?

Well as for my $0.02 worth, SimplyAmorous posts are fine by me, she pretty much embodies the Aloha spirit in her messages.


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I don't really know all the ins and outs of aloha, but since I consider Polynesians one of the most advanced cultures of all time for having invented surfing, I am 100% behind this post.
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Fair points all. I am not above criticism and neither is her style. Ask her if she thinks she spends too much time. If I cared enough to search I would find her say it herself. That was an albeit editable fact because I recall it.

It fills a hole in my truthful opinion which flies in the face of claims of marital bliss which do annoy me. You don't like my style. I don't like hers. You dislike my opinion. I wasn't answering you but I appreciate the feedback.

Another poster said it would be boring if everyone was the same. Clearly we are not the same. Calling someone rude with no ill intent is rude isn't it? I didn't ask for your opinion either. I often do but not in this case. SA did ask and it's her thread.

I'm not here to answer why I offered SA my opinion other than she asked for it and I was interested in commenting on what I find annoying, over the top cheerful and an indicator that self-examining motives may be in order.

SA examines all facets of her life, behaviors, motives and how she is perceived. Hadn't you noticed. I do that also. In that way we have much in common.

Thanks for the feedback.

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You asked for honesty right. While being unique (which I can appreciate greatly, really I do and your views fascinate me by the way).

It's hard on the eyes, it draws attention away from what you are trying to convey and there have times where I've had to stop and skip over your post because it was a visual irritation (not emotional irritation, there is a great difference). The visual irritation is a physical reaction and mental shut down.

I'm a writer and a copy editor (home business) and cover designer. Visual stimuli in the appropriate manner is very important to me because well maybe I'm too anal about it.

It has to be in the right place and visually pleasing this comes from cover designing and graphics designing on my part. I don't think you are wrong to do your posts that way either because everyone is unique and different. It just isn't visually pleasing to me.

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She asked for honesty. She is a HUGE contributor. Her stye is well known and unique. I recall her participating in my threads and I appreciate that despite the annoying style. Just because I dislike an abundance of colors and artwork in posts and ad nauseum "Im so happy" claims which I believe are bogus doesn't mean she doesn't deserve a truthful response that she asked for. I don't doubt her sincere interest in the truth.
I DO want honestly, I can handle it.. really.. I realize there are people here who , after reading some of my posts may feel (and very strongly)...if she is so happy, WTF is she still doing here?? Of course that exists. If the majority felt this way, I would not feel welcome and move on, this I am sure.

Am I trying to fill a void in my life, some empty hole as you called it.... I am going to say forums have always been a hobby of mine...ever since I got the net.. some 16 yrs ago ....I was on a variety of them...Parenting, a C-section forum, christian, health forums, photography/ camera ... if I had a question about anything - I looked up a forum!... and I enjoy writing...

Mid Life offered me a flood of "OMG what is happening to me!"....it was an intense time for me & causing me to fight with my H.... having some melt downs...so I searched out a forum specifically where I could talk about this -if others could relate.. gain some insight... I learned and grew here through posting...others challenged me..I don't mind the hard stuff...I can separate the "wheat from the chaff" as they say...... Yes, it brought us closer than we've ever been.... If I didn't land here...I might have ended up on Red TUBE.... not so good. I think I made the better choice..

I needed to write out my feelings & sort through them...with my H.... I needed to do something with the excess intensity that was raging...this forum sucked me in...WHY...the posters were amazing...articulate...

I've asked myself many a times... should I play down how I feel just so others will not want to throw up... but wait... many other wives speak highly of their husbands , they are thankful too... Mrs John Adams comes to mind.. never a bad word.. Praise always... she married a wonderful man...so why shouldn't I, if I feel it so strongly.

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I got this: It also seems to me you have asked about how you are perceived or why you are perceived certain way and have mentioned others don't agree with your views before. I don't think disagreement is odd pretty much anywhere.

I don't know any forum, watering hole or church choir where there is much consensus. It seems each side of most mainstream issues always has a healthy share of supporters that think its gospel and opponents that think it's nuts
I guess my insecurities show when I speak like that... which I need to stop.

I try to accept others for their differences so it bothers me when I feel I am not... I am a sensitive woman after all & maybe it is a blight on my character.... This is one area my H has over me in spades, he could literally give a rats a$$ if people like him.. Me.. I want to push it away...but I can't deny it bugs me.. it's very stupid I realize this... I'm getting better. Posts like yours help!

I'm a work in progress like everyone else.

You are wrong about me expecting everyone to think the same though... all I wanted from a worthy forum is a place where a variety of people from all walks of life, beliefs, lifestyles , come together..allowed to speak and share...so we can all learn from each other.
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