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post #46 of 130 (permalink) Old 03-28-2014, 09:15 PM
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Truthful opinions hurt. Offering them isn't mean when asked for. Bull****ting someone is mean when they want the truth. Blowing daisies up someones azz is mean when they want the truth. SA can handle the truth. She presses on despite the critics she mentions past and present.

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Anyone that writes THAT much again in my l O-P-I-N-I-O-N has a passion for writing and illustration and it is wasted searching and posting for electrons to a very limited audience.
These two things I totally agree with. Especially the second in the case of SA. I do believe there may very well be a passion for both writing and illustration that SA should definitely persue both online and offline.

However; being truthful doesn't necessarily require being cruel. There a difference between sugar coating a truth and being cruel and unusual with truthfulness.

There is a certain decorum in brutal honesty where appropriate and gentle kind honesty where needed. Time and a place for everything.

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Dude, really?, there is clearly a difference between an opinion and an attack

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I don't like them. I scroll past them. I also like shorter punchier more blunt posts from more hard ass members. I also don't mind if you do your thing since I can ignore it.
this okey, no problem here, you can say whatever you want about her posts and you are in your right, you have your likes and dislikes and as person with his own world view is understable that there are things that you would not appreciate from your perspective

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It seems a little sad you put so much time and effort into posting to fill up whatever hole is empty in your life despite what seems to be lots of claims of a blissful state of being. It looks like attention seeking from my seat by I can be a prick too.
man this is cheap psychology that obviously is made under your own assumptions without fundamentals.

you called her a person with a empty life, desesperate for attetion and a liar (about the condition of her marriage), you hide an attack behind an advice, and you think that you are smart enough and that nobody will notice it.

You called it "truthful opinion with no ill intent", that is not the case, it was a statement where you even dare to say that you feel pity for her, really? REALLY?.

I have not read your story so I can not talk about your situation but clearly you haven't read her neither, she is not in a "perpetual blissful state" (as you called it) in her marriage, if she and her husband have a good marriage is because the both of them worked together to overcome the problems they had during their marriage (like the infertility issue, or when she found that her husband watched pornography, or the hormonal issue).

and I am still not buying that it was an opinion, just GOD knows what possesed you to feel that sense of superiority when you wrote that post, I will tell you something I feel envy about her life and how she and her husband have come this far where many have failed, you should check your own life before blabling no senses, in this society where half of the marriages end in divorce and many of the other half are together for financial reasons or for the kids a marriage like hers is worth of admiration.

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The best part of free speech is people are free to say and write what they wish and how they wish. SA is not breaking any rules, so if she enjoys spending time crafting lengthy posts with emoticons, colors, gifs, well she is absolutely free to do that.

When she asks for opinions you are free to respond how you like, but when it comes across as unnecessarily mean or harsh, or judgmental (suggesting she should be doing other things to fill some hole you have decided she has) I don't like it and you are unapologetic about that you lose my respect as a fellow member of this forum which I too spend a lot of time on and exercise my right to free speech on.

If someone asks for feedback, and you simply don't like it, then say so and explain why. CantePe's first comment was perfectly stated. The judgment calls are inappropriate.

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You are wrong about me expecting everyone to think the same though
That was not directed to you. That was for the posters commenting about my harshness, roughness, rudeness directed toward your posting style and time invested in 9000 plus rainbow infested artistic posts, etc.

Do your thing as I and others have said. No one here has to like it and many do.

To be fair, I like emoticons especially interactive. I hate your scrolly artwork and colors. It looks like a friggen scream for an intervention.

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Facepalm......
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Thesis, antithesis, synthesis.

What follows is, er, what do you call it in California? 'Outpouring of random thoughts'? I forget the name.

I guess there is no motion (change) without conflict (disruption).

You can see from some of the political threads how they just keep going ad nauseum due to a hefty weighting of conflicting and non-converging opinion on all sides.

But they never get to the final stage, of resolving, deciding - the synthesis - the new 'starting position' -

from which a new debate is formed by the antithesis immediately arising, keeping it going forward on its new track. A new debate on a more specific/complex issue.

A change of quality, brought about by the internal contradictions revealing themselves and growing in number - the untenability of a position or both positions is revealed over time (change of quantity) reaching the point of unsustainability in its present form.

In debate, consensus is just a new starting point for a (different) conflict, and conflict is the starting point for reaching consensus. We can never 'agree to disagree', that's postponing the resolution.

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In CA we call it being a bit of a ****...
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SA,

I said what I meant. I don't sugar coat. I get a knock on the door or a call a week from people that know I won't play around bull****ting them. The qualifier of my unvarnished opinion is always it is only my opinion but I will tell you if you want to hear it.

I certainly hope i didn't hurt your feelings. I am very sorry if I have.

Keep doing things on your terms unless your intended audience is rejecting. If so then reevaluate if they are a priority for you. Otherwise, the hell with them. Do your thing.

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@manticore your opinion is valid and mine isn't. I got it. Note how you exaggerate what was said. YOU changed my "whatever empty hole" into "empty life" If it was so bad then why did you feel the need to make it worse? I think it's called unrighteous indignation since you are objecting to what you said I said not what I said. Examine your own intent before you start examining my words and intent into something worse than they are. What is your motive for doing so? Fair point isn't it?

SA doesn't live an empty life and she has made that clear as others have so eloquently pointed out. However, I think the time invested in the endless artistry is to say the very least what I have already stated. Disagree but your B.S. inaccurate translation is intellectually dishonest because you are being emotional I imagine.

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@manticore your opinion is valid and mine isn't. I got it. Note how you exaggerate what was said. YOU changed my "whatever empty hole" into "empty life" If it was so bad then why did you feel the need to make it worse? Examine that before you start examining my words into something worse than they are. What is your motive for doing so? Fair point isn't it?
Semantics.

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SA,

I said what I meant. I don't sugar coat. I get a knock on the door or a call a week from people that know I won't play around bull****ting them. The qualifier of my unvarnished opinion is always it is only my opinion but I will tell you if you want to hear it.

I certainly hope i didn't hurt your feelings. I am very sorry if I have.

Keep doing things on your terms unless your intended audience is rejecting. If so then reevaluate if they are a priority for you. Otherwise, the hell with them. Do your thing.

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@manticore your opinion is valid and mine isn't. I got it. Note how you exaggerate what was said. YOU changed my "whatever empty hole" into "empty life" If it was so bad then why did you feel the need to make it worse? I think it's called unrighteous indignation since you are objecting to what you said I said not what I said. Examine your own intent before you start examining my words and intent into something worse than they are. What is your motive for doing so? Fair point isn't it?

SA doesn't live an empty life and she has made that clear as others have so eloquently pointed out. However, I think the time invested in the endless artistry is to say the very least what I have already stated. Disagree but your B.S. inaccurate translation is intellectually dishonest because you are being emotional I imagine.
Again, how hard it to use different colors or emoticons? Not very, it turns out.
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Truthful opinions hurt. Offering them isn't mean when asked for. Bull****ting someone is mean when they want the truth. Blowing daisies up someones azz is mean when they want the truth. SA can handle the truth. She presses on despite the critics she mentions past and present.
I despise fake flattery... no daises when you don't feel it.. give it to me straight... I do find you a little harsh but the beauty is.. I won't take that as a judgement on me personally. But some points deserve a closer look...

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I don't think spending that much time (years, daily, countless hours every day) is healthy.

MY truthful O-P-I-N-I-O-N is …

If there was something fulfilling available including a blissful marriage, awesome family, passionate offline interests you wouldn't find endless hours of doo dads added and being searched for all over the web.

Anyone that writes THAT much again in my l O-P-I-N-I-O-N has a passion for writing and illustration and it is wasted searching and posting for electrons to a very limited audience.
I should do something else with my Writing passion... I go back & forth here.... Part of it is pure laziness..Ok.... I need a kick in the a$$... I don't know...

I looked into Relationship coaching.. . one of the better courses was like $9,000..I called/ talked to some lady......but really....it's just a certificate ...what does that hold up as... not much... I could find cheaper courses ...at the end of the day -it's probably marketing that will get you any clients....then I feel like who in the world is going to pay for that, when they have Marriage forums, endless free advice/ articles, websites like Marriage Builders, endless books on amazon... I WOULDN'T .. but I'm cheap!

I used to listen to Talk radio and watch "Young & the Restless" in the past...as a SAH Mom.....I might have ate some bon bons but I still got everything done... I have found this more enjoyable. Maybe I should go back to church and get more involved.. there's a thought....but then I remind myself ..I am Heretic.. so that's not going to fly well either..

So for now.. I post...and still I question if I am wasting my potential.. I LOVE and enjoy talking to people, people enjoy talking to me (I don't mean this to sound braggish)...I can meet almost anyone & have them offering deeper parts of their life story... I've been amazed at times...how quickly this happens. I should be in some form of communications. I used to volunteer for a Free 24 hour hotline.. enjoyed that too.

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Ok, I love this....really....Getting an "I am sorry " from an admitted Prick...why ..because I didn't take offense to you... but looked past the harshness to the meat.

Peace to you too - I got this. (I would put a smiley here but I will refrain)
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No big problem with it here! From my own perspective, I think that it adds emphasis! I do it only because when my glasses are off or my contacts are out, I can see a heck of a lot better!

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He said it himself- he hates cheery posts because he "would rather commiserate in a ***** fest at times for no understood reason calling all spouses scum and bums". I guess her PMA really sticks in his craw.
I just gotta tell you reading this had me laughing out loud...... and I woke my husband up from his sleep.

I got this, you have stirred the Pot... most of my threads die a quick death...thanks to you , you poured some hot tabasco sauce on this one... I'm getting some pop corn.
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