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post #16 of 30 (permalink) Old 05-31-2014, 06:12 PM
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Re: Deleted thread, I am really ticked off (question and a partial vent)

I also find it frustrating when a thread suddenly disappears. I've noticed a couple recently are just gone.

Oh well, the thread does "belong" to the OP in a sense. I like Mrs. JA's suggestion to compose in Word and save it on your computer. Or if you're on a mobile phone, use a Note app, copy and paste.

SteveK's epic thread just vaporized too... although he did explain why he took it down.


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Well, Mr. Right Fighter - I looked over a few of your threads and other postings and seems like you are a really combatative person, and seems you are generally unhappy. I am sorry you have all this pent up angst.
Enjoy arguing with someone else.
I have much better things to do with my time.

Holy cow, that is "combative" to you? I mostly agreed with you. Maybe you took my tone the wrong way here? But now that you are trying to taking things to the personal level, OK, I'm done arguing with you too.
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Well, perhaps we misunderstood each other then.

And I am sorry for taking things to a personal level.

But, I still don't want to argue.
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Re: Deleted thread, I am really ticked off (question and a partial vent)

I've had the same frustration of composing a well thought response only to have it disappear when I attempted to post it because the thread no longer existed.

Lesson learned, and I compose it in another program where it can be saved then transfer it. It would be nice if there was a "save draft" option that could be used when composing.

I often thought it would be useful for there to be a way to archive the threads we post in; although I also very well understand that OPs should have the final say over their threads.

I guess if you really wanted to, you could find a way to export and save threads for your own personal archive. (Or go REALLY old school and print the out!) I do wish I had some of my best posts saved somewhere, but typically they are good because of the particular give and take of a thread less so than as stand-alone posts.
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I have been hit with this a few times. When I feel like I have written something especially profound, for myself anyway, I now just copy it into my web journal. I don't write a lot of soul searching in my journal but I do like to record observations, events, and how I view them as well what I think are good ideas and observations. Thats enough for me.
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Thanks, but not possible now, since it's lost and my internet history won't pull it up.
Compose longer responses (or ones you care to make sure are saved) in something like Google Docs (free unlimited space for text documents). It will save all revisions and auto-saves every word you type, forever (or until you delete the document).
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I find that my thread with a lot of great advice and post, lost the OP, then it was deleted, then it was working again and then it now is no where to be found.

Not sure what happened. Requested it to be fix with the mods. Keeping my fingers crossed.
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Re: Deleted thread, I am really ticked off (question and a partial vent)

I think the poster has the right to delete there posts for whatever reason.
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post #24 of 30 (permalink) Old 07-28-2014, 11:07 AM
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Re: Deleted thread, I am really ticked off (question and a partial vent)

Just make sure that all of your posts are awesome, that way it isn't so bad when you lose one.

On a more serious note, we get requests from users all of the time to "please, delete all of my posts ..."

Most often it is because their posts have been discovered and are causing further issues, or even potential physical harm in their real lives.

To be clear, we can't. We can't press a button and remove someones 5 or 5,000 posts.

They must do so manually.

The 'feature' for a thread starter to be able to remove their initial post is never going to be revoked, and if the first post is removed, the thread is removed. Just the way it is folks.
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It's an Internet forum, not a thesis. FWIW, I've been on here for years, and never noticed any of my posts deleted, unless a user deletes a thread or the mods delete a thread. Doesn't help you, but that's been my experience. But if your stuff is really important to you, I'd recommend you regularly back it up.

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I'm going to post another little gem that I have put up from time to time, to help with perspective.

If ever, when you are posting, you think that what you have to say is more important than what the OP has to say or how they feel about their circumstances, you are over-invested.

People get banned for this. They lose their mind if the OP doesn't respond to their post, take their advice, or acknowledge their POV.

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Re: Deleted thread, I am really ticked off (question and a partial vent)

My posts are mediocre at best so there's not much being lost if it goes anyway! I'm curious that another one bites the dust and I'm not going batty, 'Huh, I'm sure that thread was here...'

I've deleted early threads simply as our marriage is now in a different time, place and space continuum. Perspective has changed, the dynamic has progressed... I can't relate to the person I was then but they served their purpose at the time.

For those who give fantastic advice though, I could see how it may be useful to others in a similar predicament but I'm sure the OP takes something from it nonetheless.

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Re: Deleted thread, I am really ticked off (question and a partial vent)

I am one who has deleted a few threads.

I deleted some of them because they got derailed or hijacked.

It has been hard for me to delete my threads. They are part of me, my heart and soul. I have spent hours upon hours on TAM. When I read back over my threads, I don't even recognize my own posts...

I also deleted some threads and may have to delete more as I progress closer to D. I don't know if any of it would help or hurt in the event of a divorce.
even when I delete threads, I do remember what posters tell me.

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TAM HAS HELPED ME! Even if some threads are deleted, I hope Tammers don't give up on me just because I deleted older threads that are no longer relevant. There is no longer a need for anyone to post a link to an older stupid thread that I started a year ago... That's history...I am no longer that man i was a year ago.
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And it wasn't even my thread. The reason I am ticked off is because I cared about the issue, I spent a VERY long time composing a carefully worded response, then a short time later the thread is deleted, probably by the OP, since there was nothing objectionable in the thread to cause moderators to bury it. But we don't know, because it just vanishes as if it never existed.

So the 45min or so I spent are down the drain, and I will never get that time back. I feel all that effort was now a waste.

The thread in question was here (link won't work now, of course):
Is this a dumb reason to consider leaving?

Anyway, here is my point. Shouldn't there be a better way to do this? Not allow OPs to delete threads after a certain amount of time? Or only allow OPs to delete their posts but keep the thread intact? (that would at least keep the responses). Or at least keep a placeholder there so people at least know the thread was deleted?

I don't know what the best answer is. All I know is that I have been posting here for awhile, have some friends here, but am seriously reconsidering staying if the things I write can just be erased from existence on a whim. To add insult to injury, my response is EVEN ERASED FROM MY OWN COMMENT HISTORY as if it never even existed! I was seriously questioning my own sanity when I couldn't find it again. There has to be a better way to handle that at least!

Then maybe you should reply to any thread or post!

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