Just in case anyone wants to learn EXACTLY what I was referring to
since it is an eye opener when you actually realize the many forms abuse takes
and again - From EITHER GENDER
It is really an eye-opener when you discover that you have been in an abusive relationship. We usually think of domestic violence as simply someone physically assaults another or verbally abuses them. But, in fact, there are many, many forms of abuse.
Here are some links for more information regarding how to tell the signs of domestic abuse. There is a wide range from withholding affection as punishment, withholding sex, withholding money or transportation, withholding medications etc. etc. Domestic Violence and Abuse: Signs of Abuse and Abusive Relationships Emotional and Psychological Trauma: Causes, Symptoms, Help Emotional Abuse Â« Center For Relationship Abuse Awareness Knowing the Signs of Domestic Abuse â€” Vermont Network
feel afraid of your partner much of the time?
avoid certain topics out of fear of angering your partner?
feel that you can’t do anything right for your partner?
believe that you deserve to be hurt or mistreated?
wonder if you’re the one who is crazy?
feel emotionally numb or helpless?
Does your partner:
humiliate or yell at you?
criticize you and put you down?
treat you so badly that you’re embarrassed for your friends or family to see?
ignore or put down your opinions or accomplishments?
blame you for their own abusive behavior?
see you as property or a sex object, rather than as a person?
act excessively jealous and possessive?
control where you go or what you do?
keep you from seeing your friends or family?
limit your access to money, the phone, or the car?
constantly check up on you?
What Is Your Relationship Like?
Do you feel that something is wrong with your relationship, but you don’t know how to describe it?
Do you feel that your partner controls your life?
Do you feel that your partner does not value your thoughts or feelings?
Will your partner do anything to win an argument, such as put you down, threaten or intimidate you?
Does your partner get angry and jealous if you talk to someone else? Are you accused of having affairs?
Do you feel that you cannot do anything right in your partner’s eyes?
Are you told that no one else would want you, or that you are lucky your partner takes care of you?
Do you have to account for every moment of your time?
When you try to talk to your partner about problems, are you called names such as ***** or nag?
Does your partner prevent you from going to work or school, or from learning English?
If you wish to spend money, does your partner make you account for every penny, or say you don’t deserve anything?
Does your partner threaten to withdraw your sponsorship or send you back to your country of origin?
After an argument, does your partner insist that you have sex as a way to make up?
Does your partner use the children against you in arguments? Does your partner threaten that you will never see the children again if you leave?
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