Re: Pro-Marriage Forum
I am pro marriage. If there's a problem that both spouses are truly willing to work on, that's what I'd say do. Divorce is the most painful thing that ever happened to me other than being betrayed by my ex wife. However, if one spouse wants to stay married (like I did) because they want a spouse they thought they had, and not what they really have, I suggest a divorce. Wallowing around in shame, self-pity, and denial (like I did) only extends the terrible pain of divorce for an indefinite period of time, robs the betrayed spouse of dignity, and allows the unfaithful spouse the time to exploit their loyal spouse.
Therefore, when I see this same thing happening to others, and it's totally obvious what the wayward spouse is doing, I do everything I can to help them change their mindset toward their unfaithful spouse to help them avoid as much pain as possible, and rebuild their life, like others here did for me.
I think there is no big mystery in being pro marriage, but pro divorce when an unfaithful spouse doesn't show remorse for one of the most evil acts they could do to the person they swore to love the most in the world, and continues to do it. I'm pro marriage at that point-- to someone else.
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