Re: referee wanted.
Write up what you have to say, either within a thread on the forum, or in a text editor like NotePad, and then copy and paste it.
Suggestions, use paragraphs.
If what you have to say, is basically several pages long, break it up into 'chunks'. Post a chunk, and then post others into the same thread subsequent to your initial post.
It isn't crucial that you provide EVERY detail in your opening post. But do convey the problem.
Welcome to the forums. Hope you and your spouse can resolve all of this with respect and dignity.