Re: Thread's & Posts disappearing
While I wasn't the moderator who addressed your post and thread, I reviewed them, so I'll try to explain.
The reply you referenced was deleted for violating forum rules in regards to treating other members with respect, and avoiding personal attacks. This is a moderated forum. That does not imply that members who violate the rules will be given the option of cleaning up their thread, or will receive coaching on the proper interpretation of the rules. The moderator obviously chose not to ban you, as an established member, but merely deleted the thread.
The thread that was deleted violated the rules of the Sex section.
The caption at the top of the sex section reminds members of the scope of the sex section. It says: Sex in Marriage Sexual problems are common in many relationships. This section is for discussions about sexuality. Please limit discussions to those asking for help with a problem and those offering advice. Any other threads may be deleted.
Your thread provided a positive status update, but it did not fit within the guidelines of "limiting the discussion to those asking for help with a problem." It was deleted, as per the Sex section rules.
The section is difficult to moderate. Two similar threads might violate the scope of the sex section, but one of those two can be offensive to some, while the other isn't. Yet if you delete only the one that offends a few people, while both violate forum rules, many members will justifiably cry fowl.