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You can't ASK to be ignored Larry. That's against the rules.

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Haven't been a victim of "trolling" on here.......yet, but when or if it happens it will be quietly reported right away.
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Does someone who gets banned have the right of appeal?

I got banned on a car forum for giving a scathing (but true) review of a local car dealer only to find out later the owner was a moderator on and sponsor of the forum.
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staarz21, please use the report feature for the PMs you have received. This person is way out of line. Behavior like this will not be tolerated here.
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I have had to put three people on "ignore" because of the fact they constantly trolled behind me to kick up a fight, and then each time I responded back in anger "I" would get suspended while they were allowed to carry on their merry way.
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Is there a particular section where this negative type of stuff appears more? Maybe I'm just not easily offended, but I don't usually notice anything I consider bad. I actually consider this place rather friendly in comparison to some other forums on the web.
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Also, if you decide to go the route of putting certain people on the "ignore" list to take care of it, can you let that person know that they are now on that list so they don't bother responding to your posts any longer. Or will that be subject to a suspension or banning?
I must admit I think this is funny... very few would go this length though.... .the type of people who use ignore generally do not want you to know they have issues with you. They are more quiet about "the hate" and likely come off as the nice people on the forum.

I would even prefer RUDE and honest over that -personally.

Honestly if anyone has ME on ignore, I would LOVE for them to tell me.....I LIKE to know who hates me..... Not everyone is going to like us... nothing new under the sun....I've had 2 women posters Pm me telling me they wanted me banned...and one telling me how snarkly I was.... I wouldn't report anyone , they hated my views, felt I was judgemental and let me know that others pmed them as well and felt I had my "head up my a$$"... It stirred me up some, and I questioned if I should even post here.

But you know what, I appreciated hearing it anyway... though I never knew or learned who the other haters was.

I wouldn't report anyone for anything... I would probably do a back & forth with them -till they got sick of me... That's just how I handle internet people and differences...I see no threat to myself... like in real life , that could be a different story.
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I must admit I think this is funny... very few would go this length though.... .the type of people who use ignore generally do not want you to know they have issues with you. They are more quiet about "the hate" and likely come off as the nice people on the forum.

I would even prefer RUDE and honest over that -personally.

Honestly if anyone has ME on ignore, I would LOVE for them to tell me.....I LIKE to know who hates me..... Not everyone is going to like us... nothing new under the sun....I've had 2 women posters Pm me telling me they wanted me banned...and one telling me how snarkly I was.... I wouldn't report anyone , they hated my views, felt I was judgemental and let me know that others pmed them as well and felt I had my "head up my a$$"... It stirred me up some, and I questioned if I should even post here.

But you know what, I appreciated hearing it anyway... though I never knew or learned who the other haters was.

I wouldn't report anyone for anything... I would probably do a back & forth with them -till they got sick of me... That's just how I handle internet people and differences...I see no threat to myself... like in real life , that could be a different story.
I can respect that, but always remember that we are all very different personalities from many different backgrounds so the way we all respond to things are always going to be different too.
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I suppose you could just post 'I'm ignoring you, <insert username> followed by an animation of a person sticking out their tongue for equal effect?

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I can respect that, but always remember that we are all very different personalities from many different backgrounds so the way we all respond to things are always going to be different too.
Of course....

I am fascinated by the various views, beliefs, ways of living, and if it WORKS and ROCKS for others.. this is GOOD for them....We are so NOT all the same... Our likes, passions, what we hold valuable, deal breakers, what annoys one may make another laugh..also our different upbringings/ experiences along the way......so much can affect our outlook...and how we choose to live & love.

Not to mention different temperaments, different pet Peeves, different love languages, etc etc it's what makes the world go around...and very interesting!@#$

This saying below is one of my favorites (out of a temperament book)....it's just something to keep in mind when dealing with others who don't feel the same as we....or their personal ideas of happiness.... it's good when we can "agree to disagree "..and still keep the some "respect" in tact...


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If I do not want what you want, please try not to tell me that my want is wrong.

Or if I believe other than you, at least pause before you correct my view.

Or if my emotion is less than yours, or more, given the same circumstances, try not to ask me to feel more strongly or weakly.

Or yet if I act, or fail to act, in the manner of your design for action, let me be. I do not, for the moment at least, ask you to understand me. That will come only when you are willing to give up changing me into a copy of you.

If you will allow me any of my own wants, or emotions, or beliefs, or actions, then you open yourself to the possibility that some day these ways of mine might not seem so wrong, and might finally appear as right--- FOR ME. To put up with me is the 1st step to understanding me.

Not that you embrace my ways as right for you, but that you are no longer irritated or disappointed with me for my seeming waywardness. And in understanding me you might come to prize my differences from you, and, far from seeking to change me, preserve and even nurture those differences.

I may be your spouse, your parent, your offspring, your friend, or your colleague. But whatever our relation, this I know: You are I are fundamentally different... and both of us have to march to our own drummer.
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Of course....

I am fascinated by the various views, beliefs, ways of living, and if it WORKS and ROCKS for others.. this is GOOD for them....We are so NOT all the same... Our likes, passions, what we hold valuable, deal breakers, what annoys one may make another laugh..also our different upbringings/ experiences along the way......so much can affect our outlook...and how we choose to live & love.

Not to mention different temperaments, different pet Peeves, different love languages, etc etc it's what makes the world go around...and very interesting!@#$
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True, we are all different. I'm different in a sense that I am almost numb to words. Seriously, a person could call me about any name in the book or say my mom wore combat boots, and it wouldn't bother me much. I call it maturity, but I don't know. I know that not many people are like that.

That's why i am always amazed at how someone is always having to apologize on tv for something they said. I'm thinking, "Really? It really hurt someone's feelings that badly?" I do like a good debate, but I rarely get upset.
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True, we are all different. I'm different in a sense that I am almost numb to words. Seriously, a person could call me about any name in the book or say my mom wore combat boots, and it wouldn't bother me much. I call it maturity, but I don't know. I know that not many people are like that.

That's why i am always amazed at how someone is always having to apologize on tv for something they said. I'm thinking, "Really? It really hurt someone's feelings that badly?" I do like a good debate, but I rarely get upset.
Hmmmmm interesting... Numb to words ....so the whole "sticks and stones can break my bones but words can never hurt me" is true for you....

What if someone took pop shots at your daughter Southbound?

I am at both ends in this..... I consider myself very sensitive - but I will never see this as a blight on my character...THIS helps me be sensitive to others as well...... in fact, I'd likely be reduced to a "not so nice" person without some of that going on....

But on the other hand....I like people to BE who they are , even if it irritates me, rubs me the wrong way..... so I know what I am dealing with. Not just being RUDE for the sake of being RUDE ...now that is pure assinine-ness to me - and it speaks to WHO THEY ARE ...

But I wouldn't want someone downplaying their true feelings in order to "spare" my virgin ears (so to speak)...

Would never have the desire to be numb to others words, thoughts, feelings...even if it may STING, throw me on the ground for a time like I was sucker punched, I'll get back up ...I welcome it ...sometimes I can learn from it.

I like sensitive people - who understand what I just said above... if not, they could be the type who you have to walk on "egg shells" with....and that is just no fun to be around at all !
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True, we are all different. I'm different in a sense that I am almost numb to words. Seriously, a person could call me about any name in the book or say my mom wore combat boots, and it wouldn't bother me much. I call it maturity, but I don't know. I know that not many people are like that.
Hey Southbound... Maybe I was reading you wrong here.. I told my husband what you said on here last night, mentioning your mom in Combat boots... this thread subject ....how you would be numb to someone saying something like that and you feel this is "maturity" on your part ..... and he shoots back ...."well yeah...... that's someone trying to pick a fight !" --is this what you meant when you replied like this... someone purposely trying to get a RISE... a reaction ?

I wasn't thinking like that when I replied... my husband agrees with what YOU said, he too is numb ....if someone like that was around, he wouldn't let them get under his skin..at all... it's best to just move along... ignore them.

Under these circumstances... I'd have to agree... Life it too short to allow our emotions to be blown by the wind by those who have no power over us or can't affect our lives either way.

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That's why i am always amazed at how someone is always having to apologize on tv for something they said. I'm thinking, "Really? It really hurt someone's feelings that badly?" I do like a good debate, but I rarely get upset.
I quickly seen your thread on Paula Deen, I've never watched her and not clear on the story but a few tidbits my husband read in a people's magazine days ago... I have to agree with Unbelievable's post on your thread here >>
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This is America. With the exception of uttering obscenities in the presence of kids or yelling "fire" in a theater or "bomb" in an airport, let people speak, think, worship, read, or listen as they wish. If you find someone insulting, you can ignore them or insult them back. Enough with the political correctness and thought police. We're turning into the PC Taliban.
I'm not politically correct at all... I've often thought it would be horrible to be famous.....every word you utter is scrutinized, weighed, and judged. Seems Paula Deen was just being honest ... obviously it would have been better for her to LIE to the public...this is why the world is full of Liars...every Politician....you can't believe a single word that comes out of anyone's mouth these days.... because they are just pandering...."white lying" their way through ...we learn from a young age, telling the truth only gets you in a deep pot of trouble.

I think that's a shame.
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Hmmmmm interesting... Numb to words ....so the whole "sticks and stones can break my bones but words can never hurt me" is true for you....

What if someone took pop shots at your daughter Southbound?

I am at both ends in this..... I consider myself very sensitive - but I will never see this as a blight on my character...THIS helps me be sensitive to others as well...... in fact, I'd likely be reduced to a "not so nice" person without some of that going on....

But on the other hand....I like people to BE who they are , even if it irritates me, rubs me the wrong way..... so I know what I am dealing with. Not just being RUDE for the sake of being RUDE ...now that is pure assinine-ness to me - and it speaks to WHO THEY ARE ...

But I wouldn't want someone downplaying their true feelings in order to "spare" my virgin ears (so to speak)...

Would never have the desire to be numb to others words, thoughts, feelings...even if it may STING, throw me on the ground for a time like I was sucker punched, I'll get back up ...I welcome it ...sometimes I can learn from it.

I like sensitive people - who understand what I just said above... if not, they could be the type who you have to walk on "egg shells" with....and that is just no fun to be around at all !
To me, there are various forms of words; there are opinions, name-calling, and lies.

If someone is spreading a lie about me, that should not be happening. However, if someone is just calling me names, I couldn't care less. name calling is usually just something done out of anger in an attempt to agitate the recipient. I like to think I don't give others the kind of power over me to change my mood within seconds because of their words.

For example, if someone calls me stupid, what would be the source of my anger? Am I angry because them calling me stupid really makes me stupid? Not logical. Am I angry because I really am stupid and hate to be reminded? Hmm. It just fascinates me to no end how some people get so ticked off at words or if someone passes in a vehicle and gives them the finger. It means absolutely nothing to me, other than another human showing how childish they are.

Now to address my daughter. My daughter is 14, and I realize that if someone were calling her names, it could lead to a problem and it would need to be dealt with. On the other hand, if I'm in a one-on-one with someone and they choose to start making wise cracks about my daughter to make me angry, it probably wouldn't make me angry. I would just return the comments with a contradiction. I'm good at that. The more people try to alarm me with words, the more of a nut I think they become.

However, there could be a negative aspect to this. Perhaps it hinders my ability to recognize emotions and sensitivity in others.
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