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Re: Are you all more flexible when it comes to the PM's?

Originally Posted by southbound View Post
To me, there are various forms of words; there are opinions, name-calling, and lies.
I LIKE how you narrowed this down into these 3 categories... very true !

If someone is spreading a lie about me, that should not be happening. However, if someone is just calling me names, I couldn't care less. name calling is usually just something done out of anger in an attempt to agitate the recipient. I like to think I don't give others the kind of power over me to change my mood within seconds because of their words.
So true...this IS giving another Power over you.

For example, if someone calls me stupid, what would be the source of my anger? Am I angry because them calling me stupid really makes me stupid? Not logical. Am I angry because I really am stupid and hate to be reminded? Hmm.
I have felt, by others opinions on this forum, that women who do NOT go to college are deemed "Stupid".... should I let it bother me that I didn't go... No, not really.. ...but yet I tend to want to say something....that just because I didn't jump through the new societal hoops of independence... just because I choose to lean on a man, get married younger & have kids...I have no regrets & am happy with my choices..

... Not sure what that says about me, maybe an insecurity is there I feel around Independent women -if I feel my type are being judged... I have to remind myself, it's just opinions...though... don't let it get to me... I like who I am & would do it all over again the same.

It just fascinates me to no end how some people get so ticked off at words or if someone passes in a vehicle and gives them the finger. It means absolutely nothing to me, other than another human showing how childish they are.
I liked how my husband handled this ... this lady flicked him the bird once, he was not even close to cutting her off but she was obviously Peeded.... he thought it was pretty funny , big on his face & says >> "LOOK that lady wants to have sex with me!"...

Now to address my daughter. My daughter is 14, and I realize that if someone were calling her names, it could lead to a problem and it would need to be dealt with. On the other hand, if I'm in a one-on-one with someone and they choose to start making wise cracks about my daughter to make me angry, it probably wouldn't make me angry. I would just return the comments with a contradiction. I'm good at that. The more people try to alarm me with words, the more of a nut I think they become.
I consider myself like this too. I can be the calmest person around a fireball... and try to breathe some reason into them, I think I have more patience here than almost anywhere else..I think because I see it as a challenge somehow...and I like that....while still holding on to the calm.

However, there could be a negative aspect to this. Perhaps it hinders my ability to recognize emotions and sensitivity in others.
I would think ...if one was aware, really understanding what is at play...and can separate the genuine (the wheat) from the misguided/ overly emotional and hurtful (the chaff)... then one can still hold on to their sensitivity and use it wisely.

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