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Old 01-04-2010, 04:40 AM   #1 (permalink)
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I am from Pune and DIL in traditional Maharashtrian family.
I got married before 25 years. I have 2 sons who are 20 and 18. I love my family.
I take tutions daily of school going students. We are 4 teachers.
Few days back one new young teacher has joined. He is young and smart.
I felt that i am geting attracted towards him . He is unmarried.
He stays near to our place. So we travel in same bus and he sits beside me. He is very talkative.
I started feeling something. I dont know what is this. I like to go out with him, sit with him in bus having lunch with him. And alos i dont understand what he is feeling about me.
Please help me.

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Old 01-04-2010, 05:52 AM   #2 (permalink)
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I am from Pune and DIL in traditional Maharashtrian family.
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Old 01-04-2010, 06:08 AM   #3 (permalink)
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Hi,
Yes i love my husband and son.
I love my family.
But still i am getting attracted to him very much.

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Old 01-04-2010, 02:18 PM   #4 (permalink)
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Tell us the areas your husband scores more highly in, and the areas the other man scores best in...
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Old 11-10-2010, 07:10 AM   #5 (permalink)
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I tried my best to keep away from him. Kept relation with him. But maintained distance also. Now its hard time. Both of us are going for 20 days training. And we are going outside pune for that training. Suggest me necessary steps to be taken

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Old 11-10-2010, 08:23 AM   #6 (permalink)
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If you know you want to stay faithful to your husband, keep your distance from this man. You and this man are going away for 20 days together for this training?

Don't keep yourself from the training you need to do.
Don't talk about personal topics with this guy, or be alone with him.
Keep in touch with your husband while you're away.
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Old 11-10-2010, 08:40 AM   #7 (permalink)
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20 dyas are too much. Also as ia m away from house, i have freedom.
I will be wearing some dresses which i dont wear while at home. Also no family meber knows that i have such dresses with me.
Will it create a problem?
He is very talkative. Sometime i have done some chnges in me as per his suggestions.

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Old 11-11-2010, 07:25 AM   #8 (permalink)
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HI

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Old 11-11-2010, 07:33 AM   #9 (permalink)
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How much does your husband mean to you?

How much do your children mean to you?

How much does your family mean to you?

How much does your name mean to you?

Is this man interested in you?

Or are you imagining something?

Is this man married?

Is it worthwhile to ruin your family and marriage for a man like this?

If you cherish your husband and marriage, and you want your life trouble free, you just need to think that this man is pursuing a lot of women. He is a womanizer, he is a playboy, he will only bring you pain rather than fun.
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20 dyas are too much. Also as ia m away from house, i have freedom.
I will be wearing some dresses which i dont wear while at home. Also no family meber knows that i have such dresses with me.
Will it create a problem?
He is very talkative. Sometime i have done some chnges in me as per his suggestions.

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There are only two of you. Together for 20 days. And you have such a crush on him. You are in trouble.

I don't think you can resist him if he takes any move.
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Old 11-11-2010, 07:42 AM   #12 (permalink)
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How old are you?

How old is he?
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Old 11-11-2010, 07:44 AM   #13 (permalink)
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I am from traditional family, As family tradition i wear only saree.
As i am going outside, first time i was planning to wear salwar and other dresses which i never wore before and no allowed in family.
Will it give some different messages to him?
Shoudl i go ahead. Also as we are friendly, i cant avoid him there.
Pl suggest.

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Old 11-11-2010, 07:45 AM   #14 (permalink)
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I am 47 and he is 29.

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Old 11-11-2010, 07:47 AM   #15 (permalink)
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I am from traditional family, As family tradition i wear only saree.
As i am going outside, first time i was planning to wear salwar and other dresses which i never wore before and no allowed in family.
Will it give some different messages to him?
Shoudl i go ahead. Also as we are friendly, i cant avoid him there.
Pl suggest.

Regards,
Shaila
Do you mean you are a middle eastern woman. Isn't it very strict there?

Shouldn't he respect you as a married woman?

I don't think it is inappropriate for you to wear other dresses if you are going to a meeting. Does the place you are going require certain clothes?
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