Re: Does "the feeling" come back?
DawnD what made you decide you wanted your marriage to work rather than to leave your H after the A?[/QUOTE]
Well, by the time I was let in on the whole A, it was 18 months after the fact. They had an A for two weeks. He slept with her 3 times. I don't know if that has any bearing or not, but I honestly think it was worse because of all the lies to cover everything up. I still have up and down days, one day I think I am fine and three days later I am up in the middle of the night bawling. But when I look at my husband and I see the effort he is putting towards fixing this and keeping me, the guilt he has over what he has done and the absolute terror that strikes him when he thinks I might leave, I think that is all something worth fighting for.
Some people will call me stupid for staying, some will tell me I am doing the right thing. Problem is, I don't care. I want my husband and even knowing what I know now, I don't want to be without him. More importantly, I see he feels the same way about me. When I ask him about his A, he will divulge any information I want. He has opened up everything, I have all passwords and access to all cell records and he has not been out other than when he has to be since I found out. He is more concerned about being here for me than he has ever been. Its a shame it took this to do that for us, but I guess better now than never.