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Old 07-30-2013, 09:41 PM   #1 (permalink)
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July 3rd, 2013, I and my girls, my husband and my step-boys parked by a gas station.

then my husband encouraged one of my step-boys to pee into a bottle in the van where I and my girls were presence.

my husband ignored my complaint of that it is very rude for him to encouraging his kids to do that with me and our girls around.


i consider it is sexual harassment to me and my girls.


what do u think?
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Old 07-30-2013, 09:50 PM   #2 (permalink)
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Um. No.

It's family. Peeing in a jar isn't sexual harassment.

Maybe a little rude..and uncouth, but not sexual harassment. It's peeing.
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Old 07-30-2013, 09:57 PM   #3 (permalink)
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What age are the kids?
Why didn't he go to the toilet at the petrol station?
Why didn't either of you suggest the girls look away?
Was the boy forced into this situation? Did his dad consider it may be humiliating for the boy?

No IMO it isn't sexual harassment, possibly an over reaction on your part and slack parenting on his part.
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Old 07-30-2013, 10:00 PM   #4 (permalink)
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Why didn't everyone go use the bathroom at the gas station?

Not a big deal tho. Family peeing doesn't count.

And it might matter the age of the kids....

*Sometimes, kids have to pee no matter who else is around.
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Old 07-30-2013, 10:17 PM   #5 (permalink)
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When you gotta go, you freaking gotta go...I am assuming the boy was ready to explode and there was no bathroom or any Tree to go hide behind .....but a bottle in the vehicle...

I am also assuming the girls happily turned their eyes away...ducking behind a seat while the act was done.... goodness graces, any age knows they have different privates and if not, I hardly think it will destroy anyone if God Forbid , a girl sees a young boys wee wee..... when I was in 1st grade, one of the kids kept whipping it out in class.. I'm Ok.

Maybe I am uncouth, a little Red-Neckish but I'd never look upon this as sexual harrassment.... if you even suggested this to him, I can only see the man rolling this eyes..

DId the Dad make the girls watch?? Then maybe it's more outrageous than I am imagining.
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Old 07-30-2013, 10:21 PM   #6 (permalink)
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Why didn't you and the girls step out, if it offended you so much?

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July 3rd, 2013, I and my girls, my husband and my step-boys parked by a gas station.

then my husband encouraged one of my step-boys to pee into a bottle in the van where I and my girls were presence.

my husband ignored my complaint of that it is very rude for him to encouraging his kids to do that with me and our girls around.


i consider it is sexual harassment to me and my girls.


what do u think?
Big whup... Family secret here. When our kids were younger.. We took long vacations... Several were over a month long and we drove as far as 8,000 miles. Sometimes, in the middle of Montana, the nearest bathroom might be 30 miles away. The boys peed in bottles... The girls peed in cups... Nobody thought anything about it... Just turn your head!

That was our code word... "I'm having a 'Montana moment'"... translation.. Gotta pee.. gotta pee now!

Not a biggie...
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Old 07-30-2013, 10:48 PM   #8 (permalink)
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Big whup... Family secret here. When our kids were younger.. We took long vacations... Several were over a month long and we drove as far as 8,000 miles. Sometimes, in the middle of Montana, the nearest bathroom might be 30 miles away. The boys peed in bottles... The girls peed in cups... Nobody thought anything about it... Just turn your head!

That was our code word... "I'm having a 'Montana moment'"... translation.. Gotta pee.. gotta pee now!

Not a biggie...

we were at a parking lot of gas station where it has restroom.

I guess because I am thinking of divorce, which makes me count it as my lawyer told me to write everything down which can benefit me in court.

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we were at a parking lot of gas station where it has restroom.

I guess because I am thinking of divorce, which makes me count it as my lawyer told me to write everything down which can benefit me in court.

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Gotcha.

You are LOOKING for anything you can make into sexual harassment...
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we were at a parking lot of gas station where it has restroom.

I guess because I am thinking of divorce, which makes me count it as my lawyer told me to write everything down which can benefit me in court.

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People like you who would use this harmless opportunity to forever label a man as being one who sexually harrases women...scare the crap out of me and make me extremely angry all at once.

Shame.
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Please don't burden your lawyer with this nonsense.

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we were at a parking lot of gas station where it has restroom.

I guess because I am thinking of divorce, which makes me count it as my lawyer told me to write everything down which can benefit me in court.

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Old 07-31-2013, 10:14 AM   #12 (permalink)
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Wow. Just wow. My ex wife tried to do something similar to me. The mediator just laughed at her.
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July 3rd, 2013, I and my girls, my husband and my step-boys parked by a gas station.

then my husband encouraged one of my step-boys to pee into a bottle in the van where I and my girls were presence.

my husband ignored my complaint of that it is very rude for him to encouraging his kids to do that with me and our girls around.


i consider it is sexual harassment to me and my girls.


what do u think?
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Old 07-31-2013, 10:26 AM   #14 (permalink)
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Women like you are the reason that REAL sexual harassment is so hard to prosecute. There are too many stories like this out there and people are never sure what to believe.

I'm a woman and I'm offended by this. If you don't like your husband, divorce him but you don't have to ruin his life by painting him as some dirty pedophile in the process.
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Old 07-31-2013, 10:56 AM   #15 (permalink)
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vandictive are we.

just divorce and try to be fair about it. why try to win? its not about winning its about moving on from someone who you once loved.

I just don't get this whole have to get as much out of him/her as I can when divorcing.

yuck.
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