MRS.me

My husband and I are still newly weds. We have been married a little over a year but have spent the most of it apart. We are both dual military and are stationed a world apart. We try our best to talk everyday and we have date nights on web cam but its still very hard for us. Recently my husband has had a very bad mood about everything, and its becoming a big problem. There are days when i dont even want to answer the phone just because i know there is a fight waiting on the other end. Things are getting more and more difficult and i know its because we miss one another but its just becoming a big problem. He doesnt even seem to notice and whenever i bring it up we get into yet another fight. How can i find out what is going on and let him know that his bad moods are hurting us without making him feel like i am attacking him??

DawnD

Ah. my H and I were dual military there for a long time, I feel your pain on being a world apart and trying to make it work. It gets sticky.
The only thing I can suggest is to come at him completely calm and ask "I've noticed you are having a bad time, is there anything I can do to help?" If he says he is just stressed, missing you, etc reassure him that you miss him too, and then talk about what you BOTH need from each other so you aren't spending your only time together fighting. If this doesn't work, hopefully someone else has a better suggestion!

Dryden

DawnD makes a good point. It's likely due to being so far apart for such a long time. I know it would contribute to making ME feel grumpy.

Talking about it is the best thing, and like Dawn said, reassuring him that you miss him too.