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post #1 of 3 (permalink) Old 01-12-2010, 01:14 PM Thread Starter
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Should I worry about this?

First of all hi to everyone im new here
second, my girlfriend doesn't seem to like my jelousy so much.
I used to live like 200 Km away, but now im staying at her place. In our first 3 months she left me alone for 3 days to go to a concert with a "friend", I didnt like that because i never met the guys, and i didnt know anything about him.
while she was away i was looking into her computer for MSN messenges she had the de days before. I found out she was talking and texting with a guy she knew from a chatting room or something, and the chattings she had hurt me alot. Talking about how she would go with him when she brakes up with me, add some webcam plesseurs with it... etc etc you know the deal.

When she came back we talked about it and she got very mad about me reading her privacy?!

Now, 10 months later, we are having a baby.. and i am still very jelous, i wont let her talk to ex boyfriends, and i get very depressed and sad when she is on msn. Everytime she is on msn i am trying to go and sit next to her just to sit with her and watch the screen. then she gets mad and closes everything, and telling me she may not talk to friends that she may not do anything etc.

I have alot of talks with her mother, and she understands me, but i cant help it to keep getting jelous. our sex life is great, so i should not be worrying to much, or do i?

greeting, Erazor

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post #2 of 3 (permalink) Old 01-12-2010, 01:37 PM
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Re: Should I worry about this?

The good news is there are things you can do to change your situation. the bad news is, changing her is not one of them.

go to counseling. She may or may not be cheating, but how long do you want to live this way? You're miserable. You think she has to change for you to be happy, but that isnt the case. You need to change. You need to learn to make yourself happy.

Get some self help books.

do not have any more kids.

Get a life of your own.

"I'm a lover of what is, not because I'm a spiritual person, but because it hurts when I argue with reality."
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post #3 of 3 (permalink) Old 01-12-2010, 01:37 PM
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Re: Should I worry about this?

Im confused, who's baby is it? In your first 3 months she went away for 3 days with another guy? How do you know if its even your baby? Everybody has there own limits to what they can tolerate, but really, do you want to spend the rest of your life with someone you cant trust even to go online (not htat I blame you in your circumstance)? It will only get worse, not better. Believe me on that one.

FInd out if the baby is yours, if not, LEAVE, plain and simple.
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