jessi

How many out there got the "I don't love you anymore speech"
What was the outcome, separation? If you chose to try to work on getting that feeling back does it work? My friend is faced with this question, what do you think the odds are? can someone really fall back in love with their spouse? She still loves him, but he says he has lost that feeling for her, but he is trying to feel differently.....Can he?

SweetiepieMI

I know is my circumtance, my husband and I have both said that. Just last night I was wondering why the hell I married a guy like him. He said the same thing to me.

I think during fights, its not mature, but quite normal to think and say irrational things that you may mean while you're mad. The question is once the fight is said and done, do you still think you dont love him.

My husband and I have been fighting like crazy the past couple months, and tomorrow we are going to see a marriage counsiler. Its alot easier just to give up and think its over. If you do want a relationship to work, you need to work it.

DawnD

I got that last fall, because my H was sooo guilty about his affair that I didn't know about yet. So he thought he would just divorce me and then he would never have to face up to what he did. Of course when he told me that I said okay, I'll leave. The result ended up being us staying together and going to counseling. Where he STILL didn't tell me about his A.

We are in love with each other, I think he just had so much guilt that this one sentence he thought would be his easy way out. And when the therapist pointed out to him how selfish and distant he was, something clicked. I don't know what, but it clicked.