04-20-2008, 12:20 AM
Join Date: Mar 2008
| | Re: Really need advice on current relationship
Hey sunshine, sounds like you worry way to much and you really stress yourself out.
I am alot like your boyfriend, I talk to all my old girlfriends. I am a HUGE flirt, I'll talk to any person. I was often seen with my neighbors wife, since our kids were great friends and our schedules were the same, so we would hang out and have a drink and chat while our kids played, you know like on a deck or at my pool in our back yard, etc.
The difference is my wife trusts me, She knows I would never cheat on her, that I do not believe in cheating, I think it is a horrible waste of time, money and stress.
What is the point of cheating? Sex? big deal, I have sex with my spouse all the time, But I ama Social person, a very social person and I build Social bonds rather quickly.
I dated my wife for 7 years, she went to school in another state, so we HAD to learn to trust each other, had no choice, or we would go mad thinking, worrying, obbesssing.
That seems to be your issue, just stressing over nothing. Has anything happened to YOU in the past? past boyfriend cheat on you in the past? I had a girlfriend do that to me.
HAs he really ever given you any true reason to doubt he loves you?
You need to get counselling and try to figure outt he problem you are having with trust. I would also ask your boyfriend to help you get through it.
Your stress and anxiety just may drive him away, I know I would leave if my wife was that way, and so would she if I stressed over her.
you need to learn to trust him and build up your self esteem.
Please see a counselour and work this out.