Re: Confused and Very Upset and needing Advice!
He lied to you before you got married about his financial situation. Your marriage was made under false pretenses, and you should feel no overwhelming obligation to stay married. This is a sinful world, and when you live in a sinful world there are times you have no good choice. Sometimes you have to choose something that's not completely good, because there's no completely good choice to make.
Martin Luther said "pecca fortiter", which literally means "sin bravely", by which he meant that if you're not sure what to do, do what seems best, knowing that God will forgive your sins.
Based on what you've said, if you have no children with this man, you should probably divorce him as the least-bad option.