Seperated, wife wants space but says she loves me
My wife and I have been married for 2 years, together 9. In December my wife was very cold with me and said she didn't know if she wanted to be with me and wanted space to work out some personal issues. We were living with her family due to financial difficulties relating to job loss. So I moved out. We did not speak at all until she found out that I had rented a place and was angry that I didn't call her to consult her about making that decision, this is after 3 weeks of no contact. I told her we were separated without contact and I was homeless, had to do something.
We started talking a little after that, she came by my place and liked it. She had agreed to move in twice and has backed out twice stating the same I am still confused and I don't know what to do, I'm scared. This even though she tells me that she loves me, is in love with me and is scared to lose me. Every one of our friends and family that have talked to her have said that we have to be together to work things out but she is still undecided. We have now been separated for 2 months now.
I don't believe that there is anyone else involved in this equation so I don't think her wanting to be with someone else is an issue. We use to have great communication with me being the main one to get her to open up, but she has become more and more withdrawn from everyone. Completely shutting down despite my attempts before and after the separation. I tell her the only way we have a chance to save this marriage is being together and working through any problems, communicating, going to counseling, etc. She says she has to work through her issues first, which she has not identified, and will be going to a psychologist next week.
I don't know if I should give her the space and not contact her because I feel that any chance we have at saving our marriage has to be done being together. Being apart from her is completely breaking my heart and I have become a bit obsessive because I don't want our marriage to slip though our fingers.
I don't know what to do. I have even drawn up divorce papers in an effort to get her to react but she says she will not sign them.
Looking for some advice on what to do because my head is spinning and I don't know what the right thing to do is. I only know that I really love my wife and don't want to lose her.
Thanks for any advice.