CK, this is not a child. It's a woman; at least one old enough to get married - she hasn't given her daughter's age. So I assume at least 18, and you have to start treating her like an adult at some point. It's time they get out of the mother/daugther dynamic and treat each other as adults. If her daughter were 30, would she still be whining to dad about daughter talking back to her? Gosh, I hope not!
It sounds like Hannak has been through these type situations before and was trying to make her husband and her daughter see the light, especially if the husband did not hear the daughter say how mean she was.
It sounds to me, from how she writes, that she has set UP these types of situations before. And based on his reaction, it sounds like HE has been through these situations before and doesn't trust his wife to be the innocent victim.
If the daughter is spoiled, how do you think that happened? Of course it's possible that daddy always pampered daughter, but that's not what she wrote. You are seeing that because that's what happened in YOUR situation, so of course
you feel sorry for the mom.
I'm trying to read between the lines and what I saw was a very melodramatic woman upset that they didn't take the bait. I may be wrong.
Is there history between dad and daughter? Obviously. Is there a stroy behind the OP? Sounds like it. Even when people give her plausible, logical arguments against what SHE sees, she doesn't even give it a moment's thought. She just continues to blame everyone but herself. That says a lot. I know she's hurting. But I've seen plenty of people spend their whole life
being hurt because they want to be the center of attention, and everyone else doesn't agree.
If I'm totally misreading her post, I apologize. But it seems that the majority of the people here are seeing the same thing, and that tells me that I'm probably not. I'd like her to be happy, and I think she CAN achieve that if she'll take a step back and look at herself.