Why do i feel facebook is ruining my marriage
Hi everyone, I have not posted in a week or two because of some really good progress in my marriage. We finally broke the ice and had a great valentine day weekend. My parents watch our girls sat,sun and monday.
We had a great time to ourselves that sunday night, we talked and worked stuff out. We went to a bookstore and looked in the couples section but did not find something we liked, so I bought a reflexology book to use on my wife and she bought a book on family. She was surprised that i bought that book to use on her she kinda like the idea and i was happy she seemed to be into the family thing more then i thought she was, here i thought she gave up but i was wrong.
While we were out she saw this open heart necklace thing in a flyer. We took it home and while looking through it she saw this ring she really wants. Now i usually do not believe in buying something like that but she had a good point. When we had gotten married in 2001 the ring we had gotten did not come with the wedding band but she really wanted that ring. We were supposed to get the band but forgotten about it. So the ring was not that pricey which was great for me and she kept making comments like it is a real marriage ring not like what she has now.
So i said, will that make you happy? she said yes. She said that finally people will see she is married and since we want things to work and not end things she said this would be perfect for like a renewel.
Well, this past friday i had the day off and we were supposed to go and look at it but i had forgotten. Then this past saturday all of a sudden she had to go with her friends to see a movie and i said well what about that ring we talked about. She was like oh yeah um will go another day. I was like oh okay then.
So now she doesnt seem into it but i told her she deserved it cause of all the crap i put her through and this would be like a sign that we are done with the bad stuff and want to start a new beginning. well, now it seems that fell through.
I am seriously getting sick of facebook.... I feel it is become a wedge in my marriage. She looks forward to that darn thing more then anything and i am sick of it. I have told her this and make fun of it every chance i get. She just got a new blackberry which she does not need just an excuse to carry facebook everywhere she goes and i think it is pathetic.......
Last night i got ticked because around 10 she goes on the darn thing and goes on it till around midnight sometimes longer.
Well, last night she had gotten mad at me cause i was watching this movie and she complained about this smell coming from the carpet which her stupid friend had spilled this glass of liquor and they never cleaned it up so it reeks and i think this causes her headaches since she is home all day and sits right next to it but will not do anything to get rid of it... She asks me last night while watching this movie to get up and find the febreeze to spray the area. I said you need to wash and clean it not mask it, it will never go away. So i did this and she tells me that i am not doing it right and gets mad at me.
I leave her alone, well after the movie she tries to go on to facebook and guess what the net was down. She had not talked to me in over an hour but as soon as the net was down she then needs me. She tries talking to me all innocent like she was never mad at me. LOL. She says can you take a look at this and i said noooo cause now your just using me. She says whatever.... I said no it is the truth tuff crap.
Instead of saying well will spend time and talk or something, she just gets up and goes to bed. Well, 10 minutes later i fixed the problem and it was working but she had thought that i had did something to the net on purpose like i have before but i did not.
It was working when i left this morning so i know i will not hear from her all day but when i get home i am gonna sabotage it and see if she will talk to me then cause she did not say anything to me this morning. Though tonight i am not gonna fix it, i think i am just going to block facebook on my router settings and tell her she can use her blackberry to go on facebook lol.
Does anyone else feel like facebook is getting in the way of there relationship? I think it is crap instead of spending time with me she just gets up and goes to bed.... I am starting to think her freinds are more important then me.
Like this past weekend when she went to the movies. She constantly tells me we have no money cause she is unemployed now. I said i do not spend anything no more. But yet she goes and comes back and i find out she treated her two friends to the movie and lunch... WTF!!!!!!
What makes me more mad is i wanted to see this movie and she knew it too, i told her this when we saw it in the previews of the last movie we saw and i know her friends knew nothing of this movie until the previews were shown on tv. Now i wanted to see that wonderland movie with johnny depp right. well guess what i have been saying that since i heard of the movie. well, after they got back and she ran to facebook they were talking about seeing it when it comes out... I am sooo pissed..... I am gonna tell her what she use to tell me, your not leaving me here with the kids while you go out, I am gonna tell her to ask her parents to since they never do anything for us but my parents help with everything and i am sick of that crap.
I hope this will piss her off and see that i am getting fed up now!!! Thanks for hearing me vent...
but seriously anyone else could you let me know what you think of facebook and what it does to your relationship? thanks