Jenny321

I'm new here and would like some opinions. We're a happily married couple for nearly 40 years. My husband is 60, I'm eight years his junior. While on a camping trip with our grandsons (ages 2 and 4) last summer to a very isolated spot, my husband was taking the boys into the edge of the lake to bath them and himself. As they were about to enter the water, I decided to snap a photo of the three of them. It seemed like a nice moment of togetherness for them. They had all undressed and the photo is of all of their bare backsides. I never dreamed anyone but us would see it. While entertaining a few friends the other evening, My husband was showing photos on the computer to several of them. I had forgotten about the photo of him and the little ones, but after hearing some discussion about the photo collection I realized he had included it in the ones he had shown of our trip, among other things. It was viewed by men and women alike and afterward there was a comment or two about it that caused me to realize what had happened. Nobody objected to it, in fact some said it was a very nice family photo and one female friend referred to it as "cute". There was one joke about "seeing a few buns" and one man said he had "been mooned". My issue is that I am not comfortable with my female friends seeing my husband without any clothes on. I know it's only "from the back" but still he is shown completely naked. He says there's nothing wrong with a picture of an older man's bottom in an innocent setting. Am I making something out of nothing? Am I the only one who feels this way? Please respond with some opinions here.

Deejo

How nice are your husband's buns?

Much ado about nothing. I don't mean to minimize your feelings, but unless you suspect that your husband's hindquarters have the power to make women lust after him ... you needn't worry about a blessed thing.

Icaredou

Have you seen what's been all over the TV recently? Sexting, and sending naked photos over the phone, then sending them to other people.

I think it violates your trust what he did, it's not okay that he did that. Obviously it bothers you if you are asking about it here.
Not that you shouldn't forgive him, but its NOT OKAY that he did that. You need to make sure you articulate this to him.

Deejo

Not the right approach. Is it ok to let him know that you were uncomfortable or embarrassed by it? Sure.

But as for not being appropriate, or a violation of trust - it is neither.

You thought it was cute enough to take a snapshot, didn't you?

If he had a slideshow of the camping trip up on the computer - the photo being shown wasn't even deliberate.

Jenny321

I guess I was taken by surprise that he would let everyone see him naked in such a care-free way. Every time I run into one of the ladies that was there I think about it. I've mentioned this to a couple of other close friends who weren't there and none of them would have a problem with their husbands being the subject in the photo. I expected most women would think like me but I suppose most wouldn't mind if their friends and family see their man in his bithday suit??????..........

How nice are his buns? They could pass for a 30 year old's any day. His gut - not quite so but it's all up front. He is in rather good shape for his age otherwise, just FYI.

HindSight

I'm LOVING this. I'm sorry! Only a kind-heart reader here. I am 31 and my husband has quite a nice seat too! To address your question, yes: I think you are quite adorably over-reacting. I think you should take his "sharing" of the photo more of a personal compliment. I would not be surprised if he wanted all his friends to know that YOU like his toosh ENOUGH to take pictures of it. You just made your man feel like a trophy and I find it neat that he knew where the pictures were - my husband has no idea where any of the pictures of him I take are. I suppose they aren't as good as yours!

Bless your soul. Be proud he loves the pictures enough to share, and sound your trumpet to all the ladies that you have something wonderful: him.

As far as his casualness about sharing his bare hiney: I doubt he viewed it like that when he was flipping through them. Us ladies fore-think everything. Men are more "free fliers" who don't put weight into every little thing. If my husband shared that type of image...I'd smile, give him the eye, and tell him he needs spanking.

Jenny321

Hi, HindSight. Had you realized how befitting your namesake is to the subject at hand, lol?

okeydokie

to the OP, i wouldnt get to worried about it, but i would bet my wife would have a similar reaction as you did.

Tomzzz

I don't think a few folks seeing your hubby's derriere is anything to be concerned about. Or any other older guy's for that matter. I'm sure many family photo albums have similar pics in them. A man's bare backside usually just gets a light-hearted innocent laugh, anyway. My wife once talked me and a couple of other older guys into doing a prank streak for an older lady's birthday party and everyone loved it. I was apprehensive at first but ended up enjoyoing it as much as anyone else. Obviously my wife didn't care who saw me since it was her idea in the first place. Also, since your friends didn't say anything, I'm sure they wouldn't mind if you saw their mates in the buff, either. Most women wouldn't. I think you should just go along with the 'buns' and 'mooned' jokes and just laugh it off.