"ratting out" a cheater - what would you do?

63Vino · 03-01-2010, 11:16 AM

I hope that all who think it should be their place to poke their noses in other peoples lives are likewise being watched like hawks by equally twisted people, and i hope that every time they even think you're doing something they dont see in THEIR way... STRIKE into your lives and fcuk things up for you.
Whether you were doing something "inappropriate" (judged by them of course) or NOT!!

mmm yea.. i think i may feel strongly on this one.

turnera · 03-01-2010, 11:18 AM

If I was doing something wrong, I should expect that someone will rat me out.

63Vino · 03-01-2010, 11:23 AM

great but you said "you're" doing something wrong.

How many people do you come in contact with in a day?
I hope lots.. cause what you're saying is that THEY with very little knowledge of you or your situation now get to decide and interfere into your life.

1968 · 03-01-2010, 12:48 PM

Wow! I must say, I am surprised by the overwhelming majority to stay out of it.
Someone asked if I had been cheated on and the answer to that is yes... I was the unsuspecting victim of an office affair.... it is incredibly embarassing to me still to think that I went to office parties and was the laughing stock while everyone knew my spouse was getting it on with a coworker. I am sure this is why this is such an issue for me.
As for what I know, its true - i have never seen them in bed together, but come on, there are PLENTY of dots to connect - I even saw them playing "footsie" once when I walked into a meeting late. There are many more instances that validates my suspiscion...
I realize it is not my place to judge - I am just thinking back to my own situation and I know I would like to have been told....

Momof3kids · 03-01-2010, 01:06 PM

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Originally Posted by 1968

I was the unsuspecting victim of an office affair.... it is incredibly embarassing to me still to think that I went to office parties and was the laughing stock while everyone knew my spouse was getting it on with a coworker. I am sure this is why this is such an issue for me.

This is your issue - but it may not be theirs. I agree with Vino - pushing your own moral agenda on others is not the way to go.

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Originally Posted by 1968

As for what I know, its true - i have never seen them in bed together, but come on, there are PLENTY of dots to connect - I even saw them playing "footsie" once when I walked into a meeting late. There are many more instances that validates my suspiscion...
I realize it is not my place to judge - I am just thinking back to my own situation and I know I would like to have been told....

Plenty of dots to connect is not the same thing as irrefutable proof.

Deejo · 03-01-2010, 02:41 PM

That's what I was banking on.

Follow your gut. Just be aware of your bias. You could save this woman a lot of heartache - or be the cause of it.

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Originally Posted by 1968

Someone asked if I had been cheated on and the answer to that is yes... I was the unsuspecting victim of an office affair.... it is incredibly embarassing to me still to think that I went to office parties and was the laughing stock while everyone knew my spouse was getting it on with a coworker. I am sure this is why this is such an issue for me.
As for what I know, its true - i have never seen them in bed together, but come on, there are PLENTY of dots to connect - I even saw them playing "footsie" once when I walked into a meeting late. There are many more instances that validates my suspiscion...
I realize it is not my place to judge - I am just thinking back to my own situation and I know I would like to have been told....