Let me start by saying that my husband really is a wonderful man and i love him very much.
That being said, there are issues, as I am sure there are with every marriage. I have talked with him about these things at length on several occasions, but things haven't really improved much.
He loves me and is very good to me..... but doesn't really notice me much....and really never has now that I think about it He has a lot of problems with fear that I will "find someone better" as he puts it. As a result, he doesn't really like for me to go places very much. He gets upset if I even go to bed without him. He wants me right there in the room with him constantly. But when I'm there, he doesn't talk to me and rarely looks at me. It's like he wants me to know that I'm there just so that he knows I'm not somewhere else.
He has a problem with playing video games all the time. I know that sounds crazy...but he really loves it. It's almost like an addiction to him. All of his spare time is spent playing games. He does work a lot and I know he's tired and I want him to be able to relax and enjoy his day off, but it's becoming a bit much. He doesn't like to go out much. He'd rather spend his time at home playing games.
As a result, I have to spend a lot of my time at home as well. I feel like the only things I do are work, take care of the kids, and sit and stare at the walls. If we ever do anything, it's because I plan every detail. He's never just taken me anywhere. It's always something I suggest.
The majority of our conversations are about the games he's playing, having sex, and stuff he needs me to take care of for him. I feel like the only attention he pays me is when he's ready to have sex. It's like he thinks that because we're married, he doesn't have to do any of the other relationship type stuff.
It's partially my fault because i just give in to him so that I don't have to listen to him complain. It's easier to just suffer in silence than have to constantly be reminded of "the time i went and hung out with my friends" and left him home with the kids. I have only had one girls night out since we've been together. It's going on 10 years. He tells me he wants me to go out with my friends, but when I say something about it, he questions me to death until it's just not worth it anymore.
I'm starting to feel like I've lost myself. I don't want to leave him, but I'm just so alone that sometimes it feels like I've already gone.
That being said, there are issues, as I am sure there are with every marriage. I have talked with him about these things at length on several occasions, but things haven't really improved much.
He loves me and is very good to me..... but doesn't really notice me much....and really never has now that I think about it He has a lot of problems with fear that I will "find someone better" as he puts it. As a result, he doesn't really like for me to go places very much. He gets upset if I even go to bed without him. He wants me right there in the room with him constantly. But when I'm there, he doesn't talk to me and rarely looks at me. It's like he wants me to know that I'm there just so that he knows I'm not somewhere else.
He has a problem with playing video games all the time. I know that sounds crazy...but he really loves it. It's almost like an addiction to him. All of his spare time is spent playing games. He does work a lot and I know he's tired and I want him to be able to relax and enjoy his day off, but it's becoming a bit much. He doesn't like to go out much. He'd rather spend his time at home playing games.
As a result, I have to spend a lot of my time at home as well. I feel like the only things I do are work, take care of the kids, and sit and stare at the walls. If we ever do anything, it's because I plan every detail. He's never just taken me anywhere. It's always something I suggest.
The majority of our conversations are about the games he's playing, having sex, and stuff he needs me to take care of for him. I feel like the only attention he pays me is when he's ready to have sex. It's like he thinks that because we're married, he doesn't have to do any of the other relationship type stuff.
It's partially my fault because i just give in to him so that I don't have to listen to him complain. It's easier to just suffer in silence than have to constantly be reminded of "the time i went and hung out with my friends" and left him home with the kids. I have only had one girls night out since we've been together. It's going on 10 years. He tells me he wants me to go out with my friends, but when I say something about it, he questions me to death until it's just not worth it anymore.
I'm starting to feel like I've lost myself. I don't want to leave him, but I'm just so alone that sometimes it feels like I've already gone.