03-17-2010, 08:19 PM
Join Date: Mar 2010
| | Re: Relationship "Type" question (marriage)
Originally Posted by 63Vino
This thread is not a debate. If you answer and or post you are not allowed to reference in anyway the response of another poster - be they positive or negative. Please respond only with which would you choose and you can also say why you would choose that. Thatís it.
Option A explanation:
Implies typical notion of marriage, meaning you agree to live by the text and "rules" of this and under no circumstances go outside the boundaries of this lieteral writing. You place the expectation of yourself and your spouse to always act accordingly regardless of any and all unforeseen future circumstances.
Option B explanation:
Implies a relationship which accepts that it will evolve over time. The two agree to be together and allow for flexibility to grow together.
The individuals are not secondary to the agreement. Major expectations are openness (emotionally, physically, sexually, etc.), honesty, and compromise. As circumstances change, so does the relationship as guided by the two.
Based on the audience that you're posing this question to....an audience that is comprised of people who have already done the "traditional marriage - Option A" route and have experienced a failed marriage, it can be expected that virtually all of the responses from the audience on this forum will be "B."
It's like going into Manhattan and asking people on the street who their favorite major league baseball team is; the answer, of course, will overwhelmingly be the New York Yankees, because that's the population of people you're surveying.
If you were to conduct your identical poll on a website that caters to "couples that have been happily married for at least 20years," you're likely to get a very different response than you would get here.
So, although your poll might be interesting, the results are completely predictable and no meaningful conclusions can be drawn from it.