63Vino

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This thread is not a debate. If you answer and or post you are not allowed to reference in anyway the response of another poster - be they positive or negative. Please respond only with which would you choose and you can also say why you would choose that. That’s it.


Option A explanation:
Implies typical notion of marriage, meaning you agree to live by the text and "rules" of this and under no circumstances go outside the boundaries of this lieteral writing. You place the expectation of yourself and your spouse to always act accordingly regardless of any and all unforeseen future circumstances.


Option B explanation:
Implies a relationship which accepts that it will evolve over time. The two agree to be together and allow for flexibility to grow together.
The individuals are not secondary to the agreement. Major expectations are openness (emotionally, physically, sexually, etc.), honesty, and compromise. As circumstances change, so does the relationship as guided by the two.

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Momof3kids

Obviously I'm a B...

I'd rather change and adapt than have to conform to a prescribed idea of what a relationship should look like or how it should function.

larniegrl

Definitely "B". We expect our close friends to let us evolve over time, and they still respect/love us...why would my marriage be any different. It should be "B" on steriods. =)

63Vino

I'm a Big Believer in "B".

I've Believe that an agreement to always work together to solve problems and evolve together, Being inventive to face challenges has a much better chance to survive than A.

ByeBye

its all about B ...

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SimplyAmorous

I have, thus far, been able to live the Tradition agreement & plan to as long as I am alive, but I would still have to choose "B" for the sake of Life sometimes changes & unfortunetly our spouses can too.

I feel "A" could leave me feeling like I was locked in a cage with no hope of escape (not to mention resentment) IF my spouse changed dramatically, or I, and could set either of us up for a mightly Fall, knowing our existence is "the LAW", you abide or you shut up. I would think this could hinder open & real commincation , to some degree, cause some things have no point in being discussed. You abide is the only option.

Open Communicantion, Compromise, even Evolving with your spouse is more important to me, than "laws" or "rules".

DeeKay1

Vino,

Based on the audience that you're posing this question to....an audience that is comprised of people who have already done the "traditional marriage - Option A" route and have experienced a failed marriage, it can be expected that virtually all of the responses from the audience on this forum will be "B."

It's like going into Manhattan and asking people on the street who their favorite major league baseball team is; the answer, of course, will overwhelmingly be the New York Yankees, because that's the population of people you're surveying.

If you were to conduct your identical poll on a website that caters to "couples that have been happily married for at least 20years," you're likely to get a very different response than you would get here.

So, although your poll might be interesting, the results are completely predictable and no meaningful conclusions can be drawn from it.

DeeKay1

Not sure what you are talking about

63Vino

Kindly remove your non respondent posts and respond if you like.

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DeeKay1

Definitely an "A." If you choose "B," why bother to get married?; just live together until the relationship "evolves" to the point where it's time to move on to another partner.