07-28-2009, 10:17 AM
Join Date: Jul 2009
Location: In a house, or in a clinic.
| | Re: I just need to talk to someone
I spent 6 years in the service, with the last 4 being married. I have seen this happen a thousand times during deployments. My experience is that absence does not make the heart grow fonder. Instead it operates more like a catalyst, speeding up the eventual course of a relationship. I am not telling you that you can't save your marriage, but what I am saying is that if you crawl inside a bottle your as good as done. Take that energy, that hurt, that pain and direct it somewhere positive like towards promotion, or becoming the best possible friggin soldier you can be. Take some courses towards a degree, or study a martial art. It will give you a positive outlet to vent, and even if the worst were to occur, it leaves you in a better position than being a drunk. I know it hurts, but trust me when I say destroying yourself is the worst possible solution you can choose, and it only strengthens her decision to leave. Success is very attractive. Fight on.