05-16-2010, 10:04 AM
Join Date: Apr 2010
| | Re: My wife is leaving me as he says she is emotionally unattached to me.
Someguy888, I have to disagree with you. The movie that susan pointed out is not a save all. There is a book behind it. That book teaches you things that every person in the world takes for granted. My wife and I have been married 20 years. And we have been through everything possible. Including affairs. And because of that movie, I got the book. It brought realization into my life in ways counseling never did. Now the wife and I are together and better than the day we got married. Now, is it a one size fits all? Probably not. But it will open your eyes to how horrible people can be without realizing it.
I learned more from the Love Dare book than I did from any counseling. In counseling it is all about what the face of the problems are, not the core of what is lacking. They deal with the issue or argument at hand. Not what the core of that issue is.
Now do I agree that his abusive behavior is a problem. Yes. Do I think it is worse than what he tells us? Yes... Why? Because of his problem he will justify certain times. However there is no real justification. The dare will points out things that will change that if you want to understand it.
impartial observers? You mean a referee... Unless one of the 2 figure out the core of things, it will not work out.
Now do I believe in counseling, yes I do. However, I believe that counseling is in no way a solution to save a marriage. In fact, I see from this forum alone that more marriages are not fixed by counseling than are...
But again, one of the parties are always to far gone to try.