05-06-2010, 04:57 PM
Join Date: May 2010
| | Mother In Law and Sister Invloved way too often
I'm new to the site...I've been married for nearly two and half years. My wife and I, experience allot of fighting in our marriage about minor things. She tends to get her family involved which then turns out to be me against three, recently we got into a fight about my recent membership to a badminton club, when she found out about this she got out of the vehicle at a red light. We had plans that evening and it took us one hour and forty five minutes to reach our destination, when we fight my wife becomes violent, she punches, slaps and throws things. I've never reacted with violence.
The following day, she's on the phone with her whole family talking about my decision to join the badminton club, everyone on her side of the family is disagreeing with my involvement to this club. Her mother called me and said that she doesn't approve, then her sister calls my sister and now two families are involved let alone the friends. In the past my wife and her sister have gotten involved with my fights, they've even called my friends to say that they are the reason as to why I am choosing to do these activities. As a couple we seldom get invited as a couple when others are getting together, because of my wife's involvement to others. They do not agree with me golfing on Sundays, going out on a Friday night with your friends from High School, they feel it's time to settle down. They feel that friends are something of High School and once or twice a year a have beer or a coffee with them. Once every second week my friends get together for a beer, they feel it's way too often.
My wife has since moved out and now I'm evaluating the situation. My wife is not answering her phone, I'm confused because of how she reacts. When telling the story to family and friends they cannot believe that she would act like that over a recreational activity. I've asked to join our local Police force, join a rec hockey league and she reacts in the same manner, punching, throwing things etc...this is nothing new as we used to fight like this when we were dating. I've told myself the next time she punches me I'm leaving. She punched me two weeks ago about my decisions to join the badminton club and I'm contemplating separation or divorce. The only problem is she is 8 months pregnant. People are telling me she is reacting this way because of hormones, but she used to do this before she was pregnant. We have yet to try counseling and I'm refusing because the two families now pretty much hate each other, counseling may help us but the two families appear to be split apart. My mother in law has reacted like this with her husband and my sister in law has reacted like this to her husband, they feel that the men should be at home pretty much at all times. My mother in law, wife and sister in law do not involve them selves with others other than the three as of late. I've noticed my wife slowing kicking her friends out of her life and her sister has done pretty much the same.
Prior to this recent fight, they never call my family to see how they are doing, or make plans for coffee. They've done this with my father in laws side and my brother in laws. I feel as though they only care about their side of the family and not their spouses.
I'm contemplating on leaving my wife.