05-20-2010, 09:21 PM
Join Date: Feb 2010
| | Re: 6 years and no proposal
Oh honey. You are very very young. Take it from a woman who got married at 22 after having a baby at 21. Am I still married to my husband? Yes. 17 years later. But it came with ALOT of the pain of both of us growing up. That is NOT to say you aren't already a grown up, but marriage oddly enough puts a totally different spin on things. I have known my husband since we were 9. Yes, 9. Good friends, so you would think that marriage would be easy for us, given our history. It wasn't. All of a sudden the expectation of my spouse is higher than when we were dating and mine was of him. Suddenly things are different. I don't know why. It just was. It was HARD work to work out our kinks. He moved out 3 times, I moved out 4. We worked through it and are still together (now happily) after all these years and against all odds/statistics. Having said that, he ALWAYS supported me in my goals and path in life. Always. He never felt inferior to me in any way. In fact, he was/is proud of me and my greatest champion. It does concern me that you mention that you think he feels inferior to you because you are studying to become a Nurse. That is a wonderful profession and something he should feel proud to have in his life. Damn proud. I think there is something deeper going on with him. Could he be resentful of you for finding you path in life while he is still trying to figure his out? I don't know. These are things that need to be explored long before you become engaged otherwise years after marriage this will become a level of resentment you cannot imagine.