Re: Tattoos, gauges, causing relationship problems
Well, I do see why you are upset with her. You expected one thing and got something else. HOWEVER, there are some things that you should learn that may help adjust your attitude a bit.
I have 00 gauged ears. I went from a regular piercing to at 2 in one day, then from 2-0 that same week. Didn't think I wanted to go bigger but found super cute 00 gauges and that was the last pair so I upped it once more a day later. I've taken them out several times to see how they would be, and they are FINE. They went right back and I regauged them. No big deal.
About the tattoos and jobs. I went to a SUPER conservative baptist Christian university- probably the least accepting group of Americans I've been around- and I have a half sleeve. I did my senior research project on the perception of people with tattoos, strictly within the university students, faculty, and staff. What did I find? NO ONE CARED. People either liked them or not, but no one thought less of the person for having them. No one thought they appeared to be a criminal or had gang association. As a whole, people could take it or leave it and went on with their lives. I have a great job and my tattoos have had no effect whatsoever on it. Why? Because I know when it's appropriate for them to show or not. She could still be a nurse or a doctor, she just can't have her tattoos showing. I know this as I have two guy friends who are nurses and one has a half sleeve, the other two full sleeves and they just keep them covered.
I can see how it would bother you if you're not attracted to them, but I'll reiterate the points made above. Do you love her for her, or for what she looks like? She isn't a different person for wanting these things. They've actually become a huge fad these days. I think you do need to chill out a bit. It's absolutely fine that you dislike them, but she likes them. You are so young and you are incredibly naive to think that she won't change what she likes from four years ago until now. How old was she then, sixteen?? You sound more like an overprotective father than a boyfriend. I think you're asking too much of her if you expect her to be exactly the same for the rest of her life as she was at age sixteen. Most people, like to change who they are from that age.