Re: Wife still talks about her "Ex"- should I be annoyed?
To clarify, I'm not "married4life" I have only been married a few years, I just have always had strong beliefs and faith in marriage hence the name. Anyways, I've experienced the same things. And I've learned men and women operate totally and completely differently on this issue and interestingly enough they respond very different as well. For instance, if the you (the guy) were talking casually about your ex at a party and your wife walked up?....good luck with that. Women expect us to understand the "emotional compenent" of caring for their ex....and we guys get that. We trust you. You are a woman, the wife I chose to marry, possibly the mother of my children and my soul mate so if you weren't caring and loving of people we probably would not ever have been. The thing is, guys operate on a different level as I've said. You may think it is friendly talking about, or talking to your ex. The ex doesn't see it that way I assure you. So even though we trust you 100% we don't trust him and thus any hint of your interest for him, is enough to make us insecure. BECAUSE WE DONT TRUST HIM, NOT YOU. And I can spot all the women's posts saying this guy is insecure but he's really not. He has a point. The girl is married now, she shouldn't engage in conversation about the ex. If someone brings it up in a small town, say "that's great for him" and move on. She really shouldn't care. My wife has friends of hers that I know readily discuss her ex to her. My wife is dedicated to me and I know on some level that may make her very uncomfortable, but she still talks about him for her girlfriends that ask. As a husband, do you think I should respect these girls and their "girl talk?" Again, it would never go over as easy for me if the guys talk about my ex and I appear interested at all. We all know women are WAY MORE insecure than men so don't bash this guy. She needs to respect his feelings as well. So now that she knows its wrong and its been discussed, she should not do it anymore out of respect for him.
Last edited by Married4Life; 08-11-2010 at 02:44 PM.