05-26-2010, 04:31 PM
Join Date: May 2010
| | Re: Husband checks out emotionally
My husband behaves the same way. It has a lot to do with his upbringing (abuse, etc.), and its his way of protecting himself. He was also depressed and suffers from PTSD from his war experiences and military service (20 years). In an attempt to try to pry him out of this funk, I went to his doctor years ago and explained the issues and what he was doing. His doctor's suggestion to me was to start treating him like "one of the children" and directing activities that included him to force him to interact with myself and the family...this worked for me, and he finally recognized that he was indeed probably depressed and went to counseling and was put on medication. Now this didn't totally solve the issue (too ingrained in his psych), but it has pulled him more out of his shell. And to fight fire with fire, I go to his man cave every day and sit and watch TV with him, doesn't matter what we watch, but we're together in the same room. In the past, I tended to let him be and go into another room, no more - I join him in his every day when I get home from work and weekends, this forces him to interact with me and it works (for us). So I agree with others, maybe he has a low testosterone problem, is depressed, or something else...but if he won't go to counseling, you should go to learn how to deal with it or what you should do. Hope this helps.