05-27-2010, 12:45 PM
Join Date: Mar 2010
| | History of phone & internet "cheating" now schoolmate? Thoughts PLEASE
My husband has a history of setting up online profiles and secret email accounts (which he hasn't done I don't think for a while) in addition to that he also has a tendancy to get drunk and after I go to bed call phone chat lines. Okay now that you have the background......
He is currently going through nursing classes and is therefore classmates with mostly women (that part doesn't bother me) What DOES bother me is that there is one in particular that for the last couple of weeks has been calling him between 3 - 5 times a day. According to him she is his lab partner.
He got hurt at softball, went to class the next day and got out early, just as I happened to be driving by after picking my son up from daycare. As I looked over to the parking lot I noticed 2 girls accompanying him to his truck, so I pulled in behind him and the 2 girls practically RAN away. I thought that was peculiar because I would have just introduced myself and left it at that. He said he'd meet me at home momentarily and I started leaving and as I looked in my rearview mirror I saw them start to walk back to his truck. I stopped and pulled to where they couldn't see me to watch. One (the lab partner) proceeded to lean up and into his truck (they weren't kissing) After watching for a couple minutes I called him, he didn't answer. Then I was furious. I called again (mind you I could SEE all of this) She backed away from the truck and she and the other girl left.
He came home and we had a blow out about it. He claimed total innocence and that no lines had been crossed etc. He shut his phone off that night, I turned it on in the morning to find a text message from lab partner asking "if he was doing ok". I texted her back "this is his wife and I don't know why you're so concerned".
I told my h what I had texted her as a heads up. Last night when I got home from work he went CRAZY on me because now "none of his (female) classmates will have anything to do with him now" I had plans with a friend and our kids last night and when I got home he gave me the silent treatment and slept in his son's room.
I feel like I'm losing my mind because HE'S mad at ME! Am I in the wrong? Will someone PLEASE give me their perspectives on this