05-31-2010, 08:24 PM
Join Date: Apr 2009
Location: SE Wisconsin
| | Re: Dealing with your spouse's family?!
BTDT. I finally just started retreating to my room, reading, or taking long walks alone, etc. Why subject myself to it? My ex-husband had isolated himself from my family on visits for years, so he couldn't object. Even better, let him take the kids and go, and enjoy a week by yourself somewhere-alone, with friends, whatever. I was never really accepted, and let it bother me for too long. It was so much better when I didn't!
Refer all questions about your behavior to your husband. It's his family, let him answer them. And he needs to make it clear that there is no bashing you while absent--the kids will hear it, and that's just cruel. "Mom's taking this chance to enjoy some time to herself while you visit your cousins" will usually satisfy the kids.