06-02-2010, 11:02 PM
Join Date: May 2010
| | Re: Should I just end it, or wait it out
Wow... So first, I'll encourage you that you must be doing a great job of being strong for your kids -- what you're dealing with sounds tough, and it seems you have the courage that your husband doesn't.
That said, maybe that's the issue... Does he have a high priority in your life? You said he took time away after all EXCEPT your first child, right? I know my H had a hard time after #2 was born (we only had 2)... And, it's because he felt he went "down" my priority list. So, maybe he's feeling an extended version of that -- only now, he's #5 on your list... And, you're so strong you don't really need him.
Do you go on dates? Do you vent to him about stuff he can help you solve as a team?
... I'm just brainstorming here... These ideas don't get him to get back in the house... I don't know what to say about that part. But, clearly there are issues with him not feeling a part of the family, or feeling disposable or something.