06-10-2010, 10:21 AM
Join Date: Apr 2010
| | Re: Need Advice
Oh dear. Sometimes it really isn't good to share everything with your spouse! The key thing here I suggest you look at is is the "before we were married" bit... as, basically, before you were mariied, well, you weren't married.
I don't doubt it was a horrible shock for you. And I am guessing it bothered her muchly too if she's now told you.
MANY people get noweher near 15 years of marriage, so sounds like there's something (or actually lots) there worth saving.
Talk some more.
Arrange a romantic dinner at home. Good food, good wine. Turn the phone off and light some candles and play some favorite music. Each of you should bring 5 fave stories from your 15 yrs of marriage "to the table"... you can support your 5 things with photos, other memorabilia and again even tunes etc.
Once you've done that it might help place the porter transgression more into overall perspective.