Re: Separated, husband wants divorce but won't file
Just an opinion here, but my first thought is that he doesn't want to have to pay for it.
It could also be that he's focusing on your "fine, we file" comment (and doesn't really think about all of the times he threatened it), so he figures that if you want it, you should be the one to do it.
I vote for number one.
Are you in individual counseling? I'd talk to someone and try to sort some of this out before filing, if it were me. It's a big enough step to take when you ARE totally sure, so when you're not, it's huge and, in my opinion, prematurely risky.
Hang in there. It does get easier.