06-18-2010, 11:10 PM
Join Date: May 2010
| | help with my boundary issues
My H and I have very different ideas about affection that came to a head today. After months of dealing with unwanted groping while I wash dishes, make dinner, try to get dressed, etc, I finally told my H that I appreciate his hugs and kisses, but I didn't like him grabbing my breasts outside the bedroom.
His responses varied from, we live alone so there's no need to be uptight, I should be flattered that he finds me so attractive, and I am HIS wife so he should be allowed to touch me however and whenever he wants.
I would like to note that we have sex on average 4 times daily, so this isn't about him trying to turn me on, I don't think. He appears to genuinely feel that his displays of affection are appropriate, and I am being uptight and punishing him for loving me.
So, being unable to convince him to respect my boundaries, how do I go about taking down my boundaries? How can I make myself less uptight and more open to my H's brand of affection?
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