I don't think I will ever be able to trust a man. Ever
There are so many opportunities to cheat and so many sexual outlets that I don't see how men can stay faithful for more than a week at a time. Even if they manage not to physically touch someone, inappropriate texting and phone calls can still constitute as cheating.
I'm only 23 and I think about this so often that it's making me bitter, pessimistic, and incredibly negative to the point that I almost don't even want to be in a relationship ever again, much less get married. My dad was/is a lying cheater and my last boyfriend of over five years was/is a lying cheater so I haven't had the best experiences.
My current boyfriend of about six months wouldn't surprise if he turned out to be the same way. He hasn't cheated to my knowledge, and says he never would (like I haven't heard that before) but I can't believe a word he says. I want to trust him when he says he loves me and would never touch someone else, but I'm so afraid of him betraying me that I feel it's easier to assume he is cheating or will cheat, because then at least I won't be surprised by it and then maybe not as heartbroken. I just don't believe anyone will ever be able to truly remain faithful to me.
I realize, and will fully admit, that I'm seriously freaking jaded... and that it's unfair of me to assume that no man will ever stay faithful to me even though I am 99% certain that I
can go my entire life without ever cheating on anyone. It just seems so impossible for someone to treat me the same way that it's not even worth wishing for.
I guess the point of all this is that I want to know... How do the rest of you people go through life trusting someone not to cheat on you, knowing how much temptation is out there? And I'm talking about truly trusting them--never snooping or checking up on them, just honestly believing that they love and respect you enough to be faithful. How do you think like that? Is it seriously possible to have that mindest, especially when you've been cheated on before?
To me it just seems ridiculously naive to think someone could actually go your entire relationship, potentially 50+ years together, without touching someone else. I see threads on here and other forums all the time where people are heartbroken because their spouse cheated on them and all I can think is, DUH!!! Almost everyone cheats at some point. Maybe humans weren't meant to be monogamous. Maybe we shouldn't even try to be... it's not worth all the heartache.
I can't stand it. I don't know how to live my life without feeling so negative about relationships. I'm terrified of committment because I know that no matter how great I try to treat my boyfriend/fiance/future husband, at one point (or several points) he's going to break my heart just because he saw some other hot piece of ass he couldn't resist. I feel like there's absolutely nothing I can do to prevent this; I feel like even if it was possible to be a PERFECT woman (which I know it's not), I would still be cheated on.
What's even the point of trusting and hoping, really??