07-04-2010, 11:01 PM
Join Date: May 2010
| | Re: my wife calls out names in her sleep
You can't control your dreams. Heck, I once had a dream that I got back together with my ex. That would NEVER happen in a million years, even if you paid me or threatened me with death. She has no control over what she dreams about.
And you can't let dreams damage your relationship. I dreamt the other night that my boyfriend cheated on me with my best friend. I could sit here and really work myself up that it could happen, but why? Neither he nor she have ever given me reason to think they would do that, they've only even met once, she's happily married 14 years, and it was just a dream.
Now, if you really feel, even setting aside the dreams, that you have something to be concerned about, then I would suggest you sit down with your wife at some point, preferably in the afternoon or evening and not right after she's had one of those dreams, and just be honest. Tell her you're feeling like there might be a problem and you'd like to discuss it and see if there's anything to worry about, and what you two can do to fix it if there is.
She may or may not be honest, if there is something to worry about. All you can do is watch her body language, her eyes, listen to her tone and trust your gut. But, don't let a dream determine what might or might not be going on.