Originally Posted by AFEH

It’s magic isn’t, would be funny if it wasn’t so not funny. My money was our money. My money went into a joint account “Mr and Mrs” along with the debit and credit cards. I must say though that my wife never abused that.

My wife? Separate bank account, her money was her money. I was stunned at one time when looking for a birth certificate to stumble across her savings account with a building society. I knew absolutely nothing about it.

I didn’t think on “you owe me”. But I did come to think that my wife felt so “entitled” and that made her a very ungrateful person.

I’m struggling with my conscience at the moment. My wife is due a reasonable inheritance. I understand that the financial side of a divorce can take that into account, in the same way a spouses pension can be taken into account. Do I go for half that inheritance, or do I leave it alone. My gut is telling me to go for it. Not to be the same old Bob, generous and accommodating.