07-07-2010, 02:00 PM
Join Date: Sep 2009
| | Re: he gets mad at me when i get upset.....
I am gonna guess that when you are having your down moments, he thinks that you want him to feel guilty about what he has done. And chances are he doesn't want to constantly have to apologize ( or feel that you want that from him) for what has happened. Not saying that is what you are doing, but it might be how he perceives it. So if you feel like you are having a bad day, tell him that. I am having a bad day, I need you to be extra _____ today. Whether it be extra nice, or kiss you more, hug you more, etc. Talk about how you are both doing at meeting each others needs. And if it is something you see that reminds you of the affair, retrain the mind on that one. I still don't like Days Inn ( lol) because it was the motel my H used for his affair. So instead of going oh, thats the place he cheated I say oh, its just a roach motel ( just so I am not thinking the other thing) and I move on. Or I instead just ask about what we should do this weekend as a family.