Re: What is acceptable, normal, and how often do you have disagreements, argue, or fi
Disagreements? Not many. I'd say, averages out to about once or twice a month, if that. But, disagreement can mean anything from I like licorice and he doesn't, to he wants to live in X and I want to live in Y. On a scale of 1 to 10, I'd probably go with 1.
Arguments? I think we've had 3 or 4 in the entire time we've been together. Probably a 3 or 4 on the scale.
Fights? One in our entire relationship, and it was a biggie. This was probably a 9 on the scale, we nearly broke up.
We both have a rather...colorful relationship history. I was cheated on and lied to, and in a marriage with someone who was rather scary and often left me feeling as though I should hide in the closet if he was angry, which has left some major scars. I also had a temper problem that didn't help in that relationship. My boyfriend has been cheated on, used for money and other things, and accused of things he didn't do.
As a result of this history, we're both pretty careful in how we express our anger or frustration with each other. We both tend to try really hard to think before we speak, and to not speak in anger if we can help it. Sometimes we slip, sometimes we say something that we should have thought about first. But we try really hard to avoid that, which is why we tend to have so few disagreements, arguments, and fights.