07-19-2010, 03:08 AM
Join Date: Jul 2010
| | When is it better to walk away?
I'm sorry if this is long. My husband and I have been together 4 1/2 years, married for 3. We got married when I was 18 because I fell pregnant and both families insisted but we were reasonably happy and went on to have another daughter.
About 18 months ago he lost his job, he hid it from me and we became further and further in debt without me realising untill we became homeless while i was 6 months pregnant and with a toddler. His family bailed us out and found us a house, he now has another job and we are again stable.
The problem is, I think I hate him. He has always been bad with money and hidden debts but now I cant sleep for worrying if we will end up homeless again. Everything comes back to money, I have to ask for everything, he does the shopping, pays bills and all i get is pocket money. Which means he has to have every detail of where I'm going and who I'm going with. I cant even take the children out on the spur of the moment because I dont have my own money. He calls me 5 times a day to check where I am and what I'm doing and about 2 months ago I found letters from creditors taking him to court, again I had to ask his mum to pay them off.
We talk and he keeps saying he will do anything to make it work, but nothing changes. We haven't had sex in months because I cant stand him touching me, everything he does annoys me and everything he says upsets me. It's at the point that I just want him to leave. But at the same time I dont want to have worked at this marriage for 3 years for nothing.
Is this all me, am I so emotional about it that it's skewing my judgement? Should I just work through it?