Re: Too weak or insecure?
Marduk, I disagree. Well, sort of. I agree that there are *some* ex relationships that the continuing contact/friendship is an indication of unresolved stuff, but not always. The ex that I am still good friends with - absolutely nothing there. We are just friends, nothing more. We talk every now and then, usually about our current relationships, otherwise about politics or current events or whatever, but there are no lingering feelings. And although I cannot sit here and tell you exactly how my boyfriend feels, I do feel safe in saying that it is probably the same for him. I know he's with me now and he wouldn't be with me if he didn't want to be.
With that said, for Anya, does he keep everything (or at least some other things ) under a password? I know my boyfriend is a major computer geek, and he has passwords on EVERYTHING. I swear, if he could put a password on our sex life, I think he would. lol And if your boyfriend is like that, then I wouldn't be too concerned. If this is the only thing he has a password on, I still wouldn't worry necessarily, but I would question him about it. Don't be accusatory, but just say "Hey, this has kind of been in the back of my mind, and I'm just wondering why you password protected her album but nothing else on the computer. Can you tell me?" and see what he says. If you really feel there's something hinky going on, I always say go with your gut. Talk to him and tell him what you think and what you feel and gauge his reaction. If you continue to feel that way even after talking to him, then I would take marduk's advice and suggest he take some time to figure out his feelings for her without you there.