07-19-2010, 03:14 PM
Join Date: Jun 2008
| | Abusive during arguments
I understand arguments will always happen. When you argue and your husband grabs you and it hurts because he holds you really tight and hurts, I don't care how angry you are this is should not be acceptable. Many times I'll just lay on the bed, floor, etc because I'm scared of him when we argue and he gets really mad. He then forces me (me fighting to stay where I am) to sit down / get up etc. but by doing so he really is hurting me the way he grabs me. Or I try to leave and run out of our place because he is physically hurting me and I'm so scared so he gets in front of the door and does not let me go out and keeps me in our house against my will. The only reason I try to leave is because I don't feel safe when he is in that mode.
He has never punched me or anything to that extent but he forces me to get up etc and hurts me by doing this. I tell him he is hurting me and he says it is my fault because I am fighting him to get up.
I'm really contemplating divorce at this time because I do not want to end up in a abusive marriage and I know we both have to work on things to better our relationship, but no matter how angry you are, I think abuse is Not an option.
Can I get others opinions on this as I am completly down and do not know what to do anymore.